SELF MASTERY: Control Your Thoughts/Actions, Surrender The Outcome (On Every Subject!)

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My greatest task these past several months has been the act of letting go. Its one of the hardest things to do when you’re so used to being a bit of a control freak. Okay… Let’s admit, we ALL do this with certain aspects of our lives. We all want to feel as if we have a sense of control over the things that are going on around us. And to a certain degree, we do. But what I’m coming to know, is that the greatest thing that we should aspire to have control over has nothing to do with anything outside of oneself. It has EVERYTHING to do with checking in with the thoughts and feelings that are behind every action or decision that one may make.

Most recently, I had to deal with relationship disappointment. For me, it was that feeling and supporting thoughts of being deprived or cheated of certain treatment. This is a very typical thing for humans, especially women to endure as we are given so many images and ideas from the outside world about how things are supposed to be. And its amazing how it never fails that the core of all relational conflicts comes from those very ideas about how things are “supposed to be.” And as the saying goes, our ideas about how things are supposed to be are what screws us up most. In fact, I find it funny how no matter what your thoughts and feelings are about something, negative or positive, you can almost always count on some kind of outside validation to support it. It can be in the form of a friend or family member’s advice, a billboard you may see while driving, a song on the radio, a fortune cookie… No matter what frequency you are on, it will somehow be validated and ultimately encouraged to continue… This is something to consider!   

But now consider this: What if it was revealed to mankind that every idea that we’ve ever held about life and how things are supposed to go are false? What if none of it is true, and its all just one great big illusion (almost like a movie), and we are playing the roles that we choose to play with every decision that we make? And what if, as a result of accepting this scenario as true, we are told that our only power in navigating through life is to develop discipline in the mind; that is, be mindful of the thoughts and emotions that pass through your being, and understand that everything that you say and do are the result of what you are thinking and feeling in any given moment. Now, if everything that you say and do will render an opposite or equal reaction, thus creating the events of your life, would it not be a top priority to constantly work at improving one’s thoughts and emotions before or during the decision making process?…

This task for me has been one of great difficulty, as it challenges me to dismiss many ideas that I have about relationships and love, and life in general. Its amazing how many different thoughts and ideas we have about specific subjects that are not our own. They are merely thoughts and ideas that we have learned from the world around us. When we learn to master what controls our actions, we can begin to be more deliberate about just what it is we are trying to accomplish with every given thought and feeling. From there, we can surrender and allow life to unfold profoundly in our favor, rather than against us through negative validation and real-life physical confirmation. This has been one of my greatest revelations!

 

Namaste!

 

@BCSTARKS 

 

 

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“Surrender” Is the Key to Miracles Unfolding [VIDEO: Oprah’s own experience]

What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

For me it’s no trivial question. It’s a question that we’ve all been brought to from time to time–me, quite often along my journey. It has even brought me to my knees, and every single time I’ve only been met with one logical answer… SURRENDER.

I’ve come to know first hand that there is no greater power than the power of surrender. In fact, it is when we do the opposite, trying to always control the outcomes of this physical life, that we suffer the greatest pain. That’s because life is made up of more than just the physical parts that we can see, touch, taste, smell, and hear. Yes, we are more than just our physical bodies. According to A Course In Miracles, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Therefore, our true core operates in a dimension that oftentimes cannot be explained by anything physical short of a miracle.

But don’t get things twisted. To surrender doesn’t mean that we are being weak, or that we should condone poor behavior from others. It merely means that we find ourselves at a place of peace about what is, no matter what is. Once we’ve done all the good that we could do to try to help or  correct it, surrender that which is beyond our own control to the DIVINE, and watch grace take over and miracles unfold.

 “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.” – James 4:10

So simple, yet often so hard to rid ourselves of the ego enough to let life unfold in our own favor.

Check out this video of “Momma O” (Oprah) as she opens up about her own experience with surrendering the trivial things of life to GOD and the Universe.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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