Brittnay’s Corner: Sexual Healing: What It Means, Why It Matters

Yes, I’m taking it there! But bear with me because this isn’t your typical religious based  speech on why you should save yourself for marriage, or be guilted  by your past. I’ll leave that part to the folks who handle that best. That’s out of my league. “Nope, not I,”  said the cat.

I do, however,  intend to share with you a lesson that almost knocked my socks off when I read it. And it’s not that I haven’t heard similar teachings, but I’ve never heard it stated in a way that actually sits well with my spirit. A way that doesn’t leave me feeling any awkwardness whatsoever… you know, guilty, anxious or ashamed. Instead, I was filled with feelings of pure love and acceptance, which is what any true word of GOD and the DIVINE should feel  like (Your spirit always KNOWS the source from which it comes…its all in how you feel).

Now to the lesson…

A Course In Miracles (ACIM) teaches us that we are not truly the physical body form that we identify ourselves by. Instead, we should view ourselves as spiritual beings having a physical/ human experience here on Earth. With that said, we must be able to view ourselves beyond our physical bodies and the physical material world that we live in.

That’s all pretty cool… obvious for some. But let’s take it a step further.

ACIM also tells us the following:

“When you equate yourself with a body[or another person in the same way], you will always experience depression [or anxiety].”

This is true when we are critical with ourselves or others about our weight, or physical attractiveness, material wealth/success, etc… It’s never a good feeling when we only fully identify ourselves as our physical bodies or material wealth because these are things that can and will constantly change, just as everything else in the physical realm. And let’s face it, we’re all worth wayyy more than what’s on the surface. In fact, we can all agree the only true constants are Spirit, LOVE and GOD… which are all ONE.

Stay with me here…

According to one of my favorite authors, Marianne Williamson in her bestselling title A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course In Miracles, “One of the ways the body can be used to manufacture depression is through loveless sex.” This is because we tend to project either love or fear when we partake in sexual activities. Williamson states:

“When sex is of the Holy Spirit, it is a deepening of communication. When it is of the ego, it is  a substitute for communication. The Holy Spirit uses sex to heal us; the ego uses it to wound us. Sometimes we have thought that sex with another person would cement the bond between us, and instead it turned out to manufacture more illusion and anxiety than there was before. It is only when sex is a vehicle of spiritual communion that it is truly loving, that it joins us to another person. Then it is a sacred act.– Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

In other words, when we partake in loveless sex, we are merely trying to fill a void for something else that we may feel is missing. In this context, sex is used as a coping mechanism that is no different from drugs, or food, or whatever else we humans have been known to use in order to cover up or communicate the true pain that may have never been healed from our past. For example, when a male/female has sex outside of an a loving relationship that has been established prior to sexual interaction, deep down he/she may subconsciously be attempting to communicate or fill a void of their true desire to be loved, wanted, or accepted as whole by another. Sex would thus be a substitution for true communication between that person, and his/her partner(s). There is always a story behind everything in life, whether deep or shallow. This is why communication on the surface goes a looooong way!

Ohhhh, but it gets better!!

Williamson goes on to share another part of this lesson that ACIM teaches, and that is one of the true definitions of what it means to be Holy as it relates to life, and in this context, sex:

“Holiness means the presence of a loving purpose, and in that sense, the body and its accouterments can be a holy expression. Many spiritual seekers have felt the need to eschew all body related things. But that can be as ego-centered as an overattachment to the physical. Anything used to spread joy and communicate love is a part of GOD’s plan for salvation.” — Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

Now tell me that doesn’t give you a whole new perspective on Marvin Gaye’s Sexual Healing!

No matter how man tries to bog it down with condemnation and ridicule, sex was created by the DIVINE as a form of communication on the deepest level… Yes, for us humans it gets no better than pure physical intimacy. But it’s only when its used for the pure purpose of LOVE, that it feels HEAVENLY through and through; not just for the moment. Hence why most religions point in the direction of marriage before sex, and the whole spiel on how man unites as one during meaningful intercourse. The truth is, all sex is meaningful. We just have to know ourselves well enough to know just what we are truly attempting to communicate to the Universe and our partner(s) in spirit.  For we will only experience the truth of our intentions. Therefore, perhaps we should heavily consider having only loving connections… at least at some point in our lives.

If love is what we truly desire, then love is what we ought to communicate with those we interact with in life in as many ways possible. First, we must love and accept ourselves as whole and complete beings right where we are. For in GOD’s eyes, man was perfectly and masterfully created. Once there, if others can accept the whole of you and love you as you are in return, then perhaps they are worthy of your sexual healing, and vice versa of course. DOPE, right!?!

Don’t ever say that I never tried to enlightened you! lol

Meanwhile, feel free to drop some of your thoughts on the topic in the comment section below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Cancer: “Incurable” means to cure from within #RIPSTEVEJOBS

“Every time you hear something is “incurable,” know that they have not yet discovered a cure for it and you must go within to find your own solution. Know that there is an Intelligence greater.”-Louise Hay

This post comes just hours after news of the loss of Steve Jobs, a great American icon who changed the way that we view apples forever (founder and former CEO of Apple, Inc.). His story of how he helped changed the world by believing in himself and his vision is beyond inspiring. It is uplifting, re-assuring, and outright BOLD. Words can hardly describe what his presence on earth has really meant for me, but I am grateful that we live during this time when technology has become a major part of our everyday lives, and much of that can be attributed to this man.

I was inspired to write this post because of the very thing that eventually took the life of such an amazing being, cancer. It’s a disease that has consumed the lives of many, especially in this day in age when day-to-day life is much more taxing, stress levels are high, people struggle to cope with life, pollution and contamination has made a home in our planet and in our foods, and the true power of human beings has become largely tainted and blurred by the nothingness of what we once thought meant something.

Oftentimes when we deal with issues of health, we are trained to rely heavily on traditional medicine, which varies according to a person’s religious or spiritual views. But what happens when the diagnosis is labeled as “incurable”? When we break down the word for what it truly symbolizes in its essence, “in” is a prefix that means “not” or “inside,” “cure” means to “relieve of disease” or “remedy/restore health,” and “-able” means “capable of.” Incurable means “to cure within”

When something is incurable it means that we are capable of, or have the ability to restore health from within.”

When we hear the daunting word “incurable” slip off of the lips of our trusted physicians, it then becomes our duty to take back our power though the understanding that since nothing outside of us can heal what it is that we are dealing with, we must go deep within to do work on levels beyond the physical. We must then rely on a SOURCE much greater, and capable than man himself.

Although our species has been gifted with immeasurable power, there is a SOURCE from even whence we’ve come, and it is far more powerful than we could ever imagine, and it lives within us all. Our SOURCE is what every philosopher, Saint, religion points us in the direction of. And based on what we know as humans, through our SOURCE all things are possible… Yes, even a cure. And many people are living testaments of just how powerful this very idea has been for them, even in the face of the “incurable.”

Steve Jobs is one of these people, for when he was first diagnosed with this incurable form of cancer, he was told that he would live only a few months. However, 8 years later, we would learn that it was largely his desire to live, along with the help of traditional medicine, that carried him the extra mile. Millions of other people can also attest to the power of “will” and the mind in terms of determining their fate.

Thankfully one of those people is a woman by the name of Louise L. Hay. She is known as the woman who cured herself of cancer, through lots of spiritual, health, and mental work. She has been a pioneer in the part of science that has been largely ignored for thousands of years, metaphysics (the study of the connection of the mind and body). She’s taken the spiritual approach to get people to understand the true power of the human mind and body in her literary work titled,YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE. In the same ways that Jesus tried to let man understand their true power through GOD, Louise does the very same thing, and on many levels she is a modern-day saint.

For her works, and for all that Steve Jobs stood for I say, “NAMASTE!” (which means “I salute the Divine within you; I salute your God-given gifts). To the person who has lived to hear the word incurable slapped across their life’s timeline, I say, “That which man cannot do, GOD CAN… and BEYOND.”

Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you. – Luke 17:20-21 (King James Version)

Please check out these interview clips from YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Words of wisdom

 “If you fail to control your own mind, you may be sure you will control nothing else. If you must be careless with your possessions, let it be in connection with material things. Your mind is your spiritual estate! Protect and use it with the care to which divine royalty is entitled. You were given a will-power for this purpose”– Napoleon Hill