How Creating A New Blueprint Can Change Your Life Story

These past couple of months have been a bit of a challenge for me. Not only have I been on an emotional roller coaster, but I’ve found myself conflicted about the direction that I was willing to allow my life to take. Just when I thought I had it all mapped out, life showed me that maybe I don’t have the answers that I thought I did.

Ever been there before?

Well I’m here. And just as I was preparing to go into hiding and sulk about how much my life sucks right now because nothing is going the way I want it to, I came across a video by none other than Tony Robbins. This video titled “Create A New Story” was right on time. In it, Tony addresses the issue of how to get unstuck by changing your blueprint. He defines a “blueprint” as the way that a person believes life should be according to his or her experiences, upbringing, religion, etc… For me, I hadn’t realized how hard I had been on myself for so long because I was so concerned with what others would think about the decisions that I have made in my life thus far… As if they had all the answers to life. I had become so married to this idea about how things were supposed to be that I became bitter with my reality because it was so far from the life that I want, and for that I have suffered massively. From bouts of depression, strong resentment, anxiety attacks, self-doubt, crippling fear of the unknown, and outright anger. I have experienced it all, and its been a path of mental and emotional torture.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies”- Nelson Mandela

That is, until I watched this video. The message that Tony brings home is that to experience happiness and live the life that you can be proud of, you have to be willing to change your view of how things are supposed to be. We as humans have to learn to let go of the ideals that make up the so-called perfect life, and shift to being open to the fact that there is no such thing as one way to be happy. We have to take massive action towards that things that will help us get closer to our goals, or change our blueprint of what success looks like.

An example he uses is that of a former professional basketball player who suffered career ending injuries. This particular player was now living some of his darkest days because his livelihood had been ripped away from him and he could not see any other way to get back to life as he knew it. He became depressed and angry, and lost sight of his purpose because his blueprint had always been to take care of his family through what he had always been great at, basketball. He found so many people to blame for why he was so unhappy, including GOD, and he could not bring himself to see that life could be better in spite of what had happened to him. It wasn’t until Tony showed him that life was only miserable because he was only allowing himself to see things one way, that he became more open to changing his perception of a perfect life.

It was such a beautiful revelation for both this former basketball player and myself. So much so, that I decided to share part of my journey here with you, as well as the very video that helped me realize the damage that I was doing to myself, and to finally be open to a new paradigm and way of life.

Check it out below and let me know what you think.

Peace, Love, and Revelations!- @BCStarks

Brittnay’s Corner: I Used To Be A Use To…

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I remember being the girl that would just “go with the flow.” Not honoring what I truly wanted in relationships, hardly ever objecting or resisting the suggestions and opinions of others, making their thoughts and ideas more important than my own. Yeah, I USED to be THAT girl… (**cues Meek Mill “Use To Be”)

Nowadays I’ve grown into my own person, accepting and embracing ALL of the WOMAN that I have become. Especially because I’ve worked so hard to become HER. But I’m noticing the strangest thing happening all around me simultaneously. As my evolution brings me closer to my SOURCE, and now that I am understanding and embracing EXACTLY who I AM; as I become more comfortable with myself, and as I express more self-love and become more vocal about my own desires and feelings, I’m noticing that this evolved version of myself doesn’t sit well with everyone.

In the past few weeks alone, I’ve experienced a barrage of criticism from complete strangers, and some friends, involving their perception of me. I’ve heard things such as, “You come off as a little arrogant,” a bit aggressive, cocky, like you might not take direction very well.” I’ve been told to tone it down,”don’t be so articulate, you’ll intimidate people” (Mind you, this has been said to me in regards to my work place mainly).  It ALL just COMPLETELY blows my mind!! Can you tell?… For me, it feels weird because I was always the one that was considered “so easy going,”… but I wasn’t happy within. But now… OH BUT NOW!

Had I taken any of this criticism to heart, I would be back where I was years ago when I was insecure, indecisive, and oh so lost… Confidence didn’t come easy for me, its something that I’ve intentionally and diligently worked at. I’ve taken some major blows emotionally and psychologically throughout my life, and ultimately I decided that I wouldn’t allow any of it to define me. Still today it takes constant reinforcement and “reminders to self.” I now embody more confidence than I ever have because I choose to believe in myself, and I completely trust myself to always do whats right and what resonates as true from within me. My life experiences have taught me that no one else has the answers to my path but my SOURCE and I.

Much to my surprise, this recent criticism is something that I am actually learning to embrace. To me, it symbolizes that I am on my path to being exactly where GOD wants me to be, because I KNOW who I AM, and WHAT I want, and I’m not afraid to stand up for that. I’m finally at a place where no one else’s opinion of me, or my life matters. Now being mediocre and going with the flow no longer serves me and my ultimate purpose. I was born with a greatness on the inside of me that had been suppressed and looked over for far too long. And this conscious space that I am currently in is calling me to bring forth this greatness, no matter what it involves or who it offends. “Sorry I’m NOT sorry…” I have a desire to be GREAT in ALL that I do. And I don’t care what anyone thinks, my light will shine brighter than ever before! And it feels soooo GOOOD!

Wishing you ALL Love and LIGHT!

@BCSTARKS

P.S.- Check out the song that inspired this post:

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The 3 Gems of LIFE: Self-Esteem, Self-Value, & Self-Worth

There’s this reoccurring lesson that keeps presenting itself to me in various forms of my day to day interactions with others. And for a while I didn’t recognize just what it was truly about. In fact, in many of those instances, I thought that somehow life was playing a cruel trick on me. Yes, even I played the victim role. But it hasn’t been until recently that I had to take several steps back and connect the dots in every single one of those scenarios. From interactions with family, boyfriends, co-workers, potential business partners, employers, on down the list… I had been experiencing what felt like a tug-o-war over how I wanted them to see me vs. how I felt I was being treated. And let me tell you, as foolish as this feels for me to admit, I understand that its all a part of growing up. We all have experienced or will experience such a feeling of being under appreciated, or undervalued, especially when we truly know who we are inside.

The trick to something like this is that it’s never really about the people that you are interacting with. In fact, they aren’t even half of the equation of this battle that you’re facing. From what I had to learn, and I’m still absorbing nuggets of wisdom from, is that:

We teach others how to treat us, by the way we treat ourselves

We show people how to interact with us, by the way we interact with ourselves

We inform the world of how much we are worth, by the way we value ourselves

The world looks at us the very same way that we look at ourselves

When we see and feel ugliness and pain within, the world will reflect that same ugliness and pain to us through our interactions

When we see beauty, love, and kindness within, the world will reflect that same beauty, love, and kindness through others

When we show forgiveness for ourselves for our own shortcomings and flaws, it is easier to forgive others, and it unknowingly makes it easier for them to forgive us

When we stand up for ourselves and become our own biggest champion, others will rise to meet us, defend us, and cheer us on

When we feel amazing, unstoppable, and fearless on the inside, life will give us more evidence of just how amazing, unstoppable and unconquerable we really are

When we understand that we and GOD/SOURCE/UNIVERSE are ONE, we understand that we too possess unlimited power and NOTHING or NO ONE outside of us has control over our lives

YOU ARE IN CONTROL of YOU and ONLY YOU!

These nuggets of wisdom come in handy as I continue to sort through what I feel is best for me within my interactions, and in order for me to live my best life. This includes how I wish to be treated by family, friends, significant others, and so on. I’m understanding my role in all of these interactions and how I am hardly ever a victim in any of them. Its all about learning to love myself on the deepest levels, feeling whole and complete at all times (regardless of what I have or have not accomplished), being confident in the woman that I’ve become so far, setting boundaries for what I will and will not tolerate from others (and sticking to it…there’s no point in betraying what you really feel on the inside, otherwise you will attract experiences where others will betray you as well).

Are you starting to get the point here? If more love is what you desire, then figure out where in your life you are not loving yourself enough. Do you often criticize yourself and the way you look? Do you feel like you don’t deserve certain things, even though you really want them? Or do you feel like others won’t do certain things for you, even though you would really like them to? Do you beat up on yourself when you make mistakes or not so great decisions? If so, this is exactly what you are training others to do when they interact with you. To turn it all around, learn to be kind to yourself. Learn to do things for yourself that you would like others to do for you (remember, they are watching your movements and ultimately following your lead). Know that you deserve any and every good thing that you can imagine for your life. And perhaps the people that you are interacting with are not the one’s to give you what you really need. Instead, they are a reflection of who you are choosing to be in those moments. So when you finally wise up and learn to value yourself, perhaps those same people will either step their game up in how they treat you, or disappear altogether and make room for people that will honor this new and improved version of you.

This lesson is something kinda special. I’m not saying that its easy to do either, because one of the hardest things to do in life is to unlearn bad habits. But with effort, gentleness, and time, you can become anything that you want to be!

 

Namaste,

 

@BCSTARKS

Words of Wisdom: How M.E. Sees It

“I AM ENOUGH AND I AM NOT MY HISTORY. I BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS THE ONLY NUTRIENT IN THE WORLD THAT CAN BE EXPRESSED, AND I VOW TO TRY MY BEST TO PRACTICE ITS EXPRESSION IN EVERYTHING I DO AND WITH EVERYONE I KNOW. I AM NEVER WITHOUT RESOURCES. I AM A CHILD OF THE HALF LIGHT. I AM CONNECTED TO THE WHOLE. I AM A CREATIVE FORCE, I RECALL THE ORIGINAL PROGRAM THAT IS MY DESIGN IN WHICH I LIVE MY LIFE BY. I AM A MAGNET. I KNOW NOTHING, BUT I HAVE THE ABILITY TO RECOGNIZE TRUTH- THATS HOW I SEE YOU, EVEN WITH MY EYES CLOSED.” – Melody Ehsani

Best Guided Meditation Video Yet!

Today is one of what I like to call my “breathing day”. It’s a day where I refrain from all work, and focus solely on feeding my spirit and stimulating my mind. So much of our daily lives are clouded with the problems of the world, and very rarely do we remember the tiny voice within that rallies for your own inner peace. I’m ever grateful for my breathing days, though they have been few and in between these past 7 months. Whenever I grant myself the opportunity to reconnect to my spirit, that inner voice, and ever-present energy, I feel whole and complete. I feel fearless, and adequate to do and become whatever it is that I need to be in the moment. I love feeling all-powerful, just as our creator intended for us to feel… because WE ARE!

So now, I would like to share with my readers yet another meditation video that I stumbled upon. It is phenomenal guided meditation, and by the far the best that I’ve heard yet. Its laced with positive affirmations and empowering thoughts spoken in the most calmest and soothing voice that I’ve almost ever heard. I like to close my eyes and sometimes find myself falling asleep while listening to it, only to awaken in the most peaceful state imaginable. As you can see, I beyond co-sign for this meditation video. Try it and let me know what you think.

Namaste!

@BCSTARKS

Brittnay’s Corner: Some Crashing Waves & A “Good Year” Blimp Later… We Are All WORTHY!!

These past few days have been quite interesting. In fact, all of 2012 thus far has been continuous moments of enlightenment and heightening of the spirit for myself. But I never would have guessed the magnitude of a lesson that I would learn from my encounter with crashing waves on a seashore and a “Good Year” Blimp… Yes, the kind you see floating in the sky on NFL Game Day.

It all started with a peaceful day on the beach with my beloved mother. She and I have always been close, but as I’ve gotten older I find that we have become more open to sharing life lessons and experiences with one another. I’ve found this to be most helpful in bringing better understanding, instead of the  judgement that often shows up in a parent-child relationship. On this day, I felt like we hit a real milestone by uncovering lessons that neither of us had probably ever shared with anyone else, but it was because we are both open to growth and change. And that’s what’s most beautiful about our relationship. #ILoveThatWoman

Hours into our retreat, just as my mother had taken an important phone call, I decided to go closer to the shore to meditate. I walked into the ocean until the crashing waves nearly reach my knees, and I buried my feet in the wet sand. I closed my eyes and affirmed to myself  many great things including that “I am now attracting whatever help I need to solve problems.” The moment was so peaceful and calm that I must have spent 10 minutes in complete mental silence, but it felt like much longer. Just as I opened my eyes, I looked up only to notice a Good Year blimp floating just above me. It made me smile as I took it as a sign that the Universe had accepted my affirmations, and was letting me know that this year will be a good year… or more like a GREAT YEAR because I said so, and I believe so! 🙂

Little did I know, it would mean much more. The following day, just as I geared up to attend a workshop for school, I noticed that there was an irregular bulge in one of the tires on my car… My tires just happened to be Good Year tires (go figure LOL).  Since I was pressed for time, I called my mother to help me search for nearby tire shops that could quickly help me meet my deadline for the workshop. There happened to be a Good Year tire shop just up the road from where I was, so I went.

But let me tell you, it was a whirlwind if I ever saw one. But a beautiful one.

When the tire on my car had been changed, I handed my debit card over to the manager who did the service, only to be informed that it had been declined. Confused, I asked him  to run it again as credit… and again, declined. After calling the bank, I was told that there were insufficient funds in my account to cover the balance because a check that I was anticipating wouldn’t clear until the following day.  Talk about embarrassing. LOL

But I was most intrigued by the manager who, while I was near panic mode and slightly flustered, he remained calm, helpful, and kind. I offered to write a check, and he agreed to let me do so, except I had left my checkbook at home, which was almost 30 mins away! AHHHH!!!! I did, however, happen to come across 20 bucks in cash to put towards what was in my account, which was less than what was owed.

To my surprise, the manager began typing on his computer as I said to him, “Sir, I apologize for the inconvenience, but what are my options? At this point, I was willing to have the tire removed and try it again the next day.  Instead he told me that he was willing to go with whatever I came up with. Huh?! That’s what I said. He then handed me a receipt and told me to go ahead and take care of whatever I needed to do for the day. I looked down at the receipt and realized that he had waived the remaining balance. Why???? Because just as I perform random acts of kindness, I am very much WORTHY to receive them as well. But had I truly believed this before?

I had always believed in blessing others for the sake of making someone’s day a little brighter; to put a smile on someone else’s face; to help take away some of the stress of another’s life; for the sake of blessing another human being. But I didn’t know or realize how much I had denied myself of being blessed, by feeling unworthy. I was so moved by the managers random act of kindness that I began to cry. I shed tears because in that moment I realized that it was bigger than just his act of kindness. In that moment I accepted that the Universe was on my side, just as I had affirmed the day before. I was shown that “a decline is not a denial,” as the saying goes.

I realized that it is up to me to be open and receptive to GOD”s goodness by letting go of the things that no longer work in agreement with this belief. That includes toxic relationships, self-valuation, and most importantly THOUGHTS… especially thoughts of unworthiness.

In life, we tend to experience things that directly correspond to our predominant thoughts about ourselves, and life in general. From the relationships and jobs that we attract, to our own self-perception; life responds to us according to what we predominantly BELIEVE!

And yes, I finally get it.  I KNOW now that I AM WORTHY… WE ARE WORTHY of all of GOD”s goodness, no matter how big; no matter how small. WE ARE ALL WORTHY!

Affirm it.

Believe it.

Release all contradicting thoughts and things.

Receive it.

Love,

@BCSTARKS