Best Guided Meditation Video Yet!

Today is one of what I like to call my “breathing day”. It’s a day where I refrain from all work, and focus solely on feeding my spirit and stimulating my mind. So much of our daily lives are clouded with the problems of the world, and very rarely do we remember the tiny voice within that rallies for your own inner peace. I’m ever grateful for my breathing days, though they have been few and in between these past 7 months. Whenever I grant myself the opportunity to reconnect to my spirit, that inner voice, and ever-present energy, I feel whole and complete. I feel fearless, and adequate to do and become whatever it is that I need to be in the moment. I love feeling all-powerful, just as our creator intended for us to feel… because WE ARE!

So now, I would like to share with my readers yet another meditation video that I stumbled upon. It is phenomenal guided meditation, and by the far the best that I’ve heard yet. Its laced with positive affirmations and empowering thoughts spoken in the most calmest and soothing voice that I’ve almost ever heard. I like to close my eyes and sometimes find myself falling asleep while listening to it, only to awaken in the most peaceful state imaginable. As you can see, I beyond co-sign for this meditation video. Try it and let me know what you think.

Namaste!

@BCSTARKS

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Words of Wisdom: Do we rescue others because we don’t feel good about ourselves?

“Many of us do not understand what we are responsible for and what we are not responsible for. We may believe we have to get into a tizzy when someone has a problem because it is our responsibility to do that. However, at the heart of most rescues is a demon: low self-worth. We rescue because we don’t feel good about ourselves… caretaking provides us with a temporary hit of good feelings, self-worth, and power. Just as a drink helps an alcoholic momentarily feel better, a rescue move momentarily distracts us from the pain of being who we are. We don’t feel loveable, so we settle for being needed. We don’t feel good about ourselves, so we feel compelled to do a particular thing to prove how good we are.”

– Melody Beattie, page 90 from her book “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”. Beattie is a New York Times Best-selling author and journalist.

[Borrowed from TheDailyLove.com]

Brittnay’s Corner: Some Crashing Waves & A “Good Year” Blimp Later… We Are All WORTHY!!

These past few days have been quite interesting. In fact, all of 2012 thus far has been continuous moments of enlightenment and heightening of the spirit for myself. But I never would have guessed the magnitude of a lesson that I would learn from my encounter with crashing waves on a seashore and a “Good Year” Blimp… Yes, the kind you see floating in the sky on NFL Game Day.

It all started with a peaceful day on the beach with my beloved mother. She and I have always been close, but as I’ve gotten older I find that we have become more open to sharing life lessons and experiences with one another. I’ve found this to be most helpful in bringing better understanding, instead of the  judgement that often shows up in a parent-child relationship. On this day, I felt like we hit a real milestone by uncovering lessons that neither of us had probably ever shared with anyone else, but it was because we are both open to growth and change. And that’s what’s most beautiful about our relationship. #ILoveThatWoman

Hours into our retreat, just as my mother had taken an important phone call, I decided to go closer to the shore to meditate. I walked into the ocean until the crashing waves nearly reach my knees, and I buried my feet in the wet sand. I closed my eyes and affirmed to myself  many great things including that “I am now attracting whatever help I need to solve problems.” The moment was so peaceful and calm that I must have spent 10 minutes in complete mental silence, but it felt like much longer. Just as I opened my eyes, I looked up only to notice a Good Year blimp floating just above me. It made me smile as I took it as a sign that the Universe had accepted my affirmations, and was letting me know that this year will be a good year… or more like a GREAT YEAR because I said so, and I believe so! 🙂

Little did I know, it would mean much more. The following day, just as I geared up to attend a workshop for school, I noticed that there was an irregular bulge in one of the tires on my car… My tires just happened to be Good Year tires (go figure LOL).  Since I was pressed for time, I called my mother to help me search for nearby tire shops that could quickly help me meet my deadline for the workshop. There happened to be a Good Year tire shop just up the road from where I was, so I went.

But let me tell you, it was a whirlwind if I ever saw one. But a beautiful one.

When the tire on my car had been changed, I handed my debit card over to the manager who did the service, only to be informed that it had been declined. Confused, I asked him  to run it again as credit… and again, declined. After calling the bank, I was told that there were insufficient funds in my account to cover the balance because a check that I was anticipating wouldn’t clear until the following day.  Talk about embarrassing. LOL

But I was most intrigued by the manager who, while I was near panic mode and slightly flustered, he remained calm, helpful, and kind. I offered to write a check, and he agreed to let me do so, except I had left my checkbook at home, which was almost 30 mins away! AHHHH!!!! I did, however, happen to come across 20 bucks in cash to put towards what was in my account, which was less than what was owed.

To my surprise, the manager began typing on his computer as I said to him, “Sir, I apologize for the inconvenience, but what are my options? At this point, I was willing to have the tire removed and try it again the next day.  Instead he told me that he was willing to go with whatever I came up with. Huh?! That’s what I said. He then handed me a receipt and told me to go ahead and take care of whatever I needed to do for the day. I looked down at the receipt and realized that he had waived the remaining balance. Why???? Because just as I perform random acts of kindness, I am very much WORTHY to receive them as well. But had I truly believed this before?

I had always believed in blessing others for the sake of making someone’s day a little brighter; to put a smile on someone else’s face; to help take away some of the stress of another’s life; for the sake of blessing another human being. But I didn’t know or realize how much I had denied myself of being blessed, by feeling unworthy. I was so moved by the managers random act of kindness that I began to cry. I shed tears because in that moment I realized that it was bigger than just his act of kindness. In that moment I accepted that the Universe was on my side, just as I had affirmed the day before. I was shown that “a decline is not a denial,” as the saying goes.

I realized that it is up to me to be open and receptive to GOD”s goodness by letting go of the things that no longer work in agreement with this belief. That includes toxic relationships, self-valuation, and most importantly THOUGHTS… especially thoughts of unworthiness.

In life, we tend to experience things that directly correspond to our predominant thoughts about ourselves, and life in general. From the relationships and jobs that we attract, to our own self-perception; life responds to us according to what we predominantly BELIEVE!

And yes, I finally get it.  I KNOW now that I AM WORTHY… WE ARE WORTHY of all of GOD”s goodness, no matter how big; no matter how small. WE ARE ALL WORTHY!

Affirm it.

Believe it.

Release all contradicting thoughts and things.

Receive it.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

The thing you’re looking for is always within YOU!

This lesson is one that I am constantly reminded of.

Everyone is looking for something to get out of this life… something to complete them, or make them happy, or make their lives better. For many its material things, or financial “success.” For others its fame, recognition, or the love and affection of a parent or significant other. Whatever the void may be, at some point most people find themselves searching for something that will make this very moment or life better than what it is.

As a liver of life, I can attest that I once found myself looking for something outside of me to make me feel complete, only to find myself chasing something that could never be caught… at least not the way that I was going about it. This same scenario becomes the tale of everyone who finds themselves in this place. Because the truth is, nothing or no one outside of you can fill the void that you believe is there but YOU.

I place heavy emphasis on the “YOU” part because regardless of what your religious faith or spiritual status may be, you should never dismiss the fact that you have some control over your own life. Even if you pray to Jesus,  Buddha,  Allah, or no one at all, there is always the “YOU” in the equation that makes it complete. Whether its love and affection, money, “success’, fame or recognition, the more you chase what is outside of you, the longer it will take for you to realize that what you really want is what you could have had all along if you had just taken the time recognize your own power.

I’m not sure what it’s referred to in other religions, but in the Christian faith the Bible teaches that the peace and happiness that we as humans seek to experience cannot be found anywhere outside of every living creature on Earth… because it lies within:

“And when he was demanded of the Pharisees, when the kingdom of God should come, he answered them and said the kingdom of God cometh not with observation: Neither shall they say, Lo here! Or, lo there! For behold, the kingdom of God is within you.” – Luke 17: 20-21 (KJV)

I’m no religious person, but even life will eventually teach you that if you really want to be happy, you need to tend to your own inner guidance because nothing outside of that will give you the peace of mind that you seek. Some call it “getting right with GOD,” others call it “becoming more spiritual,” or “developing a higher sense of awareness,” but it’s all the same. I don’t claim to have a roadmap to understanding this concept and practicing it, but I will share what helped me get there:

I learned to start telling a different story about my life. I learned that instead of focusing on all the bad, I became more appreciative of the good. That’s when life began to give me more experiences, people, and things to appreciate. When I stopped criticizing myself and appreciating all of who I am, I felt more loved than ever before because I began to love me more. When I realized that even when it seems like I don’t have a solution, or enough money, I am always provided for… and so I worry no more. When I realized that certain things will always be out of my control, and that the only control I truly have is over my own thoughts and actions, I began to take responsibility for my own life. I learned never to place blame, no matter what, because doing so only gives the other person power and control over my own happiness. Most importantly, I learned to look within for the answers to questions that only I and GOD can answer. After all, his KINGDOM (peace, joy, happiness, prosperity, love… our slice of heaven on Earth) is within. 

Love always,

@BCSTARKS

There is power in being kind to yourself

I’m at an interesting point in my life where I’m gaining a better understanding about the power of kindness and compassion for self.  Most of us would like to believe that we are kind and compassionate by nature, and to a certain degree we are. But kindness and compassion for self  is something that most people struggle with on a large-scale, including myself for some time.

It wasn’t until I came to understand the concept that you can only effectively be the “thing” for others, that  you are for yourself, that my eyes began to open. My personal struggle was that I couldn’t be as compassionate and kind towards others as I really wanted to  because I had mental blocks that wouldn’t even allow me to be gentle, or feel compassion for myself. At first this was a hard pill to swallow, that is until I began to dig deeper.

The truth is, I had always been very hard on myself, especially when it came to setting goals, and getting things accomplished. I’m not quite sure where I learned it from, but I recall being extremely critical with myself whenever I felt that I didn’t meet a certain goal, or complete certain tasks.   Guilty as charged.

Luckily for me, I was able to identify this as something that I NEEDED  to change within myself to allow myself room to grow in other areas. If I wanted to have a better relationship with life (which includes relationships with family, friends, partners, as well as better experiences, health, etc.) I needed to get a grip on showing myself some TLC, and a lot more of it.

In order to do this, I began to put an end to criticizing myself, even for the slightest of things. We don’t recognize what powerful messages we are constantly sending the Universe when we criticize ourselves. Every single time you find something to criticize yourself about, you are subconsciously telling the Universe “I’m not good enough.” Therefore, you attract experiences and people into your life that give you more validation of not being good enough. Think about your life long and hard, and try to understand what I’m talking about… This is exactly what I knew I had to put an end to. 

Once you become aware of criticism within yourself, you have to tell yourself the opposite of what you normally would, something nice for a change. Tell yourself you are beautiful/handsome, flaws and all; that you love and approve of yourself no matter where you are in life; that you are never lacking because God always provides for you; that you forgive yourself for anything that you previously disapproved of; that you are where you are, and that is perfectly okay because every situation in life is temporary; that you respect your life process and trust that you always make the right decisions that will add to your growth. All of these thoughts counteract the negative one’s that you’ve probably been telling yourself all your life. Repeating them as often as possible, especially when you feel the need to criticize yourself or others, will begin to set you free.

When you can focus on becoming a better you, there is no room for finding fault in others. Therefore, you can be genuinely kind and compassionate towards others, because you will begin to be it for yourself. More importantly, the Universe will begin to support every positive thought that you bring to it, and life will begin to be much more rewarding.

Remember, thoughts become things. And whatever it is that you choose to believe becomes true for you.

Louise Hay says ‘You Can Heal Your Life’: The powerful connection between thoughts, the body, & life

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I was first introduced to the concept of the “law of attraction” as a sophomore in college. It’s a concept that has resonated with my spirit ever since. That’s probably because I was raised in a household that taught me that I could do and be anything in life as long as I believed it, and put lots of work into it.

In addition to that, growing up Christian Baptist taught me to ‘ask, and I shall receive… seek, and I shall find… knock, and the or shall be opened.’ And I could never forget one of my favorite BIBLE verses (okay, so I can’t remember exactly, lol) that says, “But wilt thou know ‘o’ vain man, that faith without works is dead?”

These very ideas shape who I have become today and forever more. But I have yet to become more impressed by any other groundbreaking piece of literature or idea, than that of bestselling author and metaphysics guru Louise Hay’s book titled, You Can Heal Your Life.

If you’re not familiar with the concept of the law of attraction, it pretty much states that your thoughts and the energy behind them are what shape your life experiences. In other words, most of what happens in life is not pure chance, but involves more interaction on your own part than you realize.

Louise takes this concept one step further by introducing the effect of thoughts on the body. Believe it or not, you can think yourself sick! Hence the reason why stress, anxiety, and depression can all lead to further bodily complications. According to metaphysical teachings, a lifetime of resentment, anger, and guilt (all emotions/ dis-eases of the mind) can lead to cancer, AIDS, and even simple things like ulcers (all dis-eases in the body).

But just as it is possible that you make yourself sick, you also have the power to make yourself well. Louise offers affirmations that help to re-program a lifetime of fear and negative thinking into new beginnings of self-love, forgiveness, compassion, overall well-being, and patience with the processes of life.

Reading this book can be life changing. At least, it has been for me. I would recommend everyone to check it out. Even if you don’t agree with things that she shares in her book, it will definitely force you to think about changing old patterns of thought.

Until next time, get ya mind right ppl!

Much Love,

@BCSTARKS 🙂