The Perfect Stranger: Encounters that leave a lasting impression

“I had pizza and coffee with a perfect stranger today. It reminded me of my journey and why I must answer the call.”- BCSTARKS

Sometimes we get lucky enough to cross paths with just the right people at just the right time in our lives. The kind of encounters where witnessing the other’s passion and purpose somehow ignites our own. I was so fortunate to have been inspired by the perfect stranger. After back and forth dialogue over pizza about the usual run of the mill (You know, the ‘where are you from-s?’ and the ‘what do you do-s?’), we exchanged stories about spirituality and our purpose-driven quests. And as we did, we saw ourselves in one another’s story.

What I was most captivated by was this stranger’s level of passion and dedication to their love for writing. Needless to say I was reminded of my own dance with writing. I was reminded that I have unfinished business to tend to; that I have a story that has yet to be told. I was reminded that just like this stranger, I must make time for the things that fuel my spirit, even if it means turning off to the world and giving myself permission to say no to the things that distract me from my calling.

Just hours before my encounter, I had listened to a speech given by motivational speaker Les Brown on living one’s purpose. In his speech, he spoke about investing time and discipline into one’s passion and gifts so that they may be of good use to the world. He mentioned how even when one feels like they are not truly where they want to be, one can always make the most of the experience by cultivating habits of success. This shift in awareness and perception would allow one to be ready for when opportunities arise where one can share those very gifts with others. By the time an opportunity arises, one will have mastered or refined the very thing that he or she aims to become.

This is where I can be found in my journey. And in a space that doesn’t fit the bill, I choose to spend my time cultivating the traits and skills that play into my life’s purpose. As a result, I can feel several opportunities on the horizon. And you better believe that I will indeed be ready for them.

Dear stranger, yet kindred spirit… your passion is infectious!

 

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Brittnay’s Corner: Sexual Healing: What It Means, Why It Matters

Yes, I’m taking it there! But bear with me because this isn’t your typical religious based  speech on why you should save yourself for marriage, or be guilted  by your past. I’ll leave that part to the folks who handle that best. That’s out of my league. “Nope, not I,”  said the cat.

I do, however,  intend to share with you a lesson that almost knocked my socks off when I read it. And it’s not that I haven’t heard similar teachings, but I’ve never heard it stated in a way that actually sits well with my spirit. A way that doesn’t leave me feeling any awkwardness whatsoever… you know, guilty, anxious or ashamed. Instead, I was filled with feelings of pure love and acceptance, which is what any true word of GOD and the DIVINE should feel  like (Your spirit always KNOWS the source from which it comes…its all in how you feel).

Now to the lesson…

A Course In Miracles (ACIM) teaches us that we are not truly the physical body form that we identify ourselves by. Instead, we should view ourselves as spiritual beings having a physical/ human experience here on Earth. With that said, we must be able to view ourselves beyond our physical bodies and the physical material world that we live in.

That’s all pretty cool… obvious for some. But let’s take it a step further.

ACIM also tells us the following:

“When you equate yourself with a body[or another person in the same way], you will always experience depression [or anxiety].”

This is true when we are critical with ourselves or others about our weight, or physical attractiveness, material wealth/success, etc… It’s never a good feeling when we only fully identify ourselves as our physical bodies or material wealth because these are things that can and will constantly change, just as everything else in the physical realm. And let’s face it, we’re all worth wayyy more than what’s on the surface. In fact, we can all agree the only true constants are Spirit, LOVE and GOD… which are all ONE.

Stay with me here…

According to one of my favorite authors, Marianne Williamson in her bestselling title A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course In Miracles, “One of the ways the body can be used to manufacture depression is through loveless sex.” This is because we tend to project either love or fear when we partake in sexual activities. Williamson states:

“When sex is of the Holy Spirit, it is a deepening of communication. When it is of the ego, it is  a substitute for communication. The Holy Spirit uses sex to heal us; the ego uses it to wound us. Sometimes we have thought that sex with another person would cement the bond between us, and instead it turned out to manufacture more illusion and anxiety than there was before. It is only when sex is a vehicle of spiritual communion that it is truly loving, that it joins us to another person. Then it is a sacred act.– Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

In other words, when we partake in loveless sex, we are merely trying to fill a void for something else that we may feel is missing. In this context, sex is used as a coping mechanism that is no different from drugs, or food, or whatever else we humans have been known to use in order to cover up or communicate the true pain that may have never been healed from our past. For example, when a male/female has sex outside of an a loving relationship that has been established prior to sexual interaction, deep down he/she may subconsciously be attempting to communicate or fill a void of their true desire to be loved, wanted, or accepted as whole by another. Sex would thus be a substitution for true communication between that person, and his/her partner(s). There is always a story behind everything in life, whether deep or shallow. This is why communication on the surface goes a looooong way!

Ohhhh, but it gets better!!

Williamson goes on to share another part of this lesson that ACIM teaches, and that is one of the true definitions of what it means to be Holy as it relates to life, and in this context, sex:

“Holiness means the presence of a loving purpose, and in that sense, the body and its accouterments can be a holy expression. Many spiritual seekers have felt the need to eschew all body related things. But that can be as ego-centered as an overattachment to the physical. Anything used to spread joy and communicate love is a part of GOD’s plan for salvation.” — Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

Now tell me that doesn’t give you a whole new perspective on Marvin Gaye’s Sexual Healing!

No matter how man tries to bog it down with condemnation and ridicule, sex was created by the DIVINE as a form of communication on the deepest level… Yes, for us humans it gets no better than pure physical intimacy. But it’s only when its used for the pure purpose of LOVE, that it feels HEAVENLY through and through; not just for the moment. Hence why most religions point in the direction of marriage before sex, and the whole spiel on how man unites as one during meaningful intercourse. The truth is, all sex is meaningful. We just have to know ourselves well enough to know just what we are truly attempting to communicate to the Universe and our partner(s) in spirit.  For we will only experience the truth of our intentions. Therefore, perhaps we should heavily consider having only loving connections… at least at some point in our lives.

If love is what we truly desire, then love is what we ought to communicate with those we interact with in life in as many ways possible. First, we must love and accept ourselves as whole and complete beings right where we are. For in GOD’s eyes, man was perfectly and masterfully created. Once there, if others can accept the whole of you and love you as you are in return, then perhaps they are worthy of your sexual healing, and vice versa of course. DOPE, right!?!

Don’t ever say that I never tried to enlightened you! lol

Meanwhile, feel free to drop some of your thoughts on the topic in the comment section below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Words of Wisdom: Living a Life of Purpose

Do something you really love that you would do anyway, do it in the most adventurous place, and if there’s a genuine need for it and through that need you can help other people, you’re home.—Diane Sawyer

Life is about growth and change. When you are no longer doing that—that is your whisper; that is your whisper that you are supposed to do something else.—Oprah

When you can’t pin-point your passion, start with what you’re already doing—not what you think others want to hear.—Daniel Pink

Quotes retrieved from Master Class Lessons on OWNTV.

Are You Living Your Purpose?

There is nothing like being in tuned with what your spirit has called you to be. And I’m not referring to titles that we’re always so quick to throw out there. Your purpose has absolutely nothing to do with a job title. In fact, jobs are merely channels that we use to be able to express our purpose. The key is to connect with the channel that will allow you to be more of what you are, thus giving you the room to allow your light to shine as bright as GOD intended.

This all sounds good right? But some may be thinking, “Well, what if I don’t know what that is?” As Oprah once suggested, if you don’t know what your purpose is in life, your mission is to figure it out IMMEDIATELY so that you can get about the business of living it.

Every single person is here for a reason beyond what the human mind can conceive. Just as life happens in divine order, each one of our lives MATTER all because WE ARE HERE! Of the many combinations of mating that takes place among human beings, and the fact that you and I made the cut in this lifetime; the fact that we co-exist RIGHT NOW is nothing short of a miracle. The fact that we have breath in our lungs, and the families that we have, and the experiences that we encounter, and the  many chances that we have to make another choice that will determine the direction that our lives will go is NOTHING SHORT OF A MIRACLE bestowed upon us by the DIVINE. Do you see where I’m going with this?…

When it comes to tapping into your life’s purpose, Daniel Pink suggests that instead of asking questions like “What am I passionate about?,” which seems to be a question that often gets people stuck, better questions to discover your purpose would be “What do you do when no one’s watching? What do you read in your spare time? Where do you seem to inevitably steer your conversations, no matter what the topic is?

For me, these past few months have allowed me to step into my purpose in ways that I never saw coming. The experiences  that I’ve encountered have shown themselves to be channels for me to do what I do best… the thing that I do effortlessly, even when no one else is looking. I do this thing everywhere I go because I take myself with me everywhere I go. And when I do this thing, it makes me feel ALIVE; like I am contributing something greater than myself to those I come in contact with. I know for sure that it is my ultimate purpose because no matter what job title I have, I AM IT!! This is my purpose, and now that I am aware of WHAT I AM  and not just WHO I AM, I vow to use channels that will allow me to be MORE of WHAT I AM; those that will allow my light to shine as bright as GOD and the Universe intended. This blog is one of my channels, and it gives me great pleasure to share my purpose with those that I am so blessed to have read my words, and those that I come in contact with.

My purpose is to INSPIRE through the various skills that I have acquired through various life experiences. When I write, when I engage in conversation, when I embark on projects that allow me to share my purpose with others through service my heart smiles, my light shines, and the DIVINE approves and blesses me in my efforts. And the same happens for all those who do the same.

Make finding your purpose your main life mission. For when you do, life unfolds most gracefully and it makes it all worth while.

Love,

BCSTARKS

What I know for sure…

“Yes, it’s the famous line that I borrowed from my “SheRo” Oprah Winfrey.”

I know that my life thus far has been unfolding for no reason short of greatness. I don’t write this to seem arrogant, or overly assured. Instead I write this with the same spirit of which our favorite rappers, or poets prophesy over their own destiny. I write these lines with conviction because I un-mistakenly believe that “your life becomes what you believe.”

I believe that one day I will remember this blog post and know that I was never wrong about how I’ve always felt… that my strengths will strengthen a movement so powerful, and so ordained by GOD and the Universe, that its will cannot, and will not be denied.

What I know for sure is that I will never stop learning and growing in the direction of my spirit’s song.

What I know for sure is that the dreams that I dream do not compare to that which the Universe sees fit for its world and the people in it.

What I know for sure is that I am thankful that man’s vision cannot touch that of GOD’s, because that… that would be much too overwhelming for the human subconscious to hold true.

What I know for sure is that the vision that I have been entrusted with by GOD has led me to spend my life’s breaths ensuring that I continuously work in the direction of its fulfillment.

What I know for sure is that inspiration and humility are a major part of my life’s purpose. And so, that is what I will continue to nurture, share, live, and be. I pray that all who read this and become inspired by it will do the same… Know what you “know” about your life for sure.

Love,

@BCSTARKS