3 Beautiful Super Soul Lessons with Michael Bernard Beckwith (Full Edpisode)

This past weekend I was struck in awe of the beautiful lessons shared on Super Soul Sunday with Michael Bernard Beckwith and momma O.

In case you’re wondering why he looks so familiar, you may recognize him as one of the captivating speakers on The Secret documentary. He’s also written several books and has a mega trans-denominational church with more than 9,000 members in Southern California. Yes, he’s “that” guy! And I get why seeing as though I must have watched this episode at least 6 times, and I’m certain to watch it several more times.

There are just so many nuggets of goodness that I couldn’t absorb them all at once. But here are a few standout takeaways that I’m sure you could appreciate as well:

 

1. Always stop to think about the lessons of the moment… How can I grow through and from this circumstance?

 

Whatever the circumstance, it’s there to teach you something. It’s there to make you more of something. Stop and ask yourself, “If I had to live the rest of my days going through this, what qualities would I need in order to have peace?”

This one question may bring up words like strength, love, or patience… whatever the answers, at that very moment, wherever you are, start practicing those things. Start being patient, start showing your strength, start loving more. And the more you do these things, over time you will have developed a new and improved version of yourself. And more than likely, your circumstances will have changed for the better.

For me, the qualities would be patience, perseverance, discipline, and trust. What qualities would have to emerge for you? Leave your answers in the comment section below.

 

2. You can only have what you are willing to become vibrationally. You have to radiate the feelings of it.

 


No need for more words on this topic of attraction … He pretty much summed it all up. #LawOfAttraction

3. When you are feeling stuck, be willing to open up to a power greater than you and ask for help.


As I said before, POWERFUL lesson after lesson! I had to share it here with you all in case you missed it.

I tried embedding the full episode into this post below, but in case it doesn’t work out, you can watch it by clicking here.

http://www.oprah.com/video_embed.html?article_id=65505

Please comment your thoughts and reactions below. I’d love to get your feedback!

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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11 Self-Help Books That Completely Changed My Life

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Along my journey, I’ve had the privilege of coming across some pretty amazing literature. Some of these books have helped me accomplish many goals, including spiritual, emotional, financial, and relationship goals. Here, I share with you 11 of my favorite books that have had the greatest impact on my growth in many of the areas mentioned. In fact, I credit these books with having changed my life for the better. And I hope that you’ll explore them for yourself.

1. The Secret: I actually saw the documentary that the book was based on when I was a freshman in college. And I must have shared it with every single person I cared about. Sure, it’s been criticized for being a simplified approach to a more complex life principle. However, simplicity was the key for me to first: understand The Law of Attraction, second: recognized that I had practiced it unknowingly throughout my life, and third: to instantly put it to work, but this time with clearer intentions. I must say that because of its simple approach, I found it easier to focus on my goals and have them manifest one by one. From getting into my dream school, to getting jobs, and even getting the exact same car that I’d once glued a picture of on my very first vision board less than 1 year later. When I recognized how powerful my thoughts really are, it set me on a journey to exploring more about where some of my negative thought patterns come from, especially if they kept me from having the life that I always dreamed of.

2. You Can Heal Your Life: Another book that I’ve bought several copies of for friends and family in both print and audio versions.This book introduced me to the concept of having self-compassion (not sure if that’s a word) and empathy. It basically picks up where The Secret leaves off since it offers solutions for improving the quality of one’s thoughts, especially as it pertains to self-image. After all, we teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. We also attract people and things into our lives based on what we think we deserve. Paying attention to self-talk is the best way to assess what you really feel about yourself. It also helps in getting to the root cause of those negative thoughts and forgiving yourself and others so that you can truly heal your life. This book offers positive affirmations for reprogramming a negative mindset and touches on metaphysics and the effects your thoughts can have on your body’s health. Two words: Great stuff!

3. Think & Grow Rich: The title of the book is self-explanatory. But I will admit that brother Napoleon Hill had me second guessing everything I thought I knew about education and the role that it would play in my life. In fact, I wanted to drop out of school before I could even finish the book, but Sallie Mae already had my name on a few documents so I had to finish. This book is an earlier version of The Secret and You Can Heal Your Life, but it offers more strategies with a business approach. Most entrepreneurs tend to appreciate a book like this. In fact, many well-known businessmen have credited this book with being the reason why they became so successful. It’s definitely left a permanent impression on me.

4. Getting To I Do: This book isn’t quite what its title suggests, but it does offer up some tips for both men and women to incorporate into their single, dating, and married lives. It is a MUST READ for those who feel a bit insecure in how to date or interact with the opposite sex (including with parents, friends, etc.) in a way that is healthy and beneficial for both people. I  would say that it is heavy in psychology based principles of how men and women (masculine and feminine regardless of physical sex) interact with one another, and how we could interact with much more harmony if we understood our own individual nature. Based on this book alone, I have a completely different outlook on relationships and interacting with the opposite sex. In fact, I plan to do some relationship videos laced with some of the principles I’ve learned from this book to help others put things in perspective. And yes, all of my close girlfriends were gifted or recommended a copy of this book. It’s a GAME CHANGER!

5. The Alchemist: The dreamer and believer in me absolutely loves this book! It’s a novel about a shepherd boy who goes on a journey to discovering his “personal legend,” which is the equivalent of his life’s purpose. It’s laced with jewels of timeless wisdom on just about every page. And it will definitely have you inspired to take of advantage of your time on Earth and pursue your hearts desires while you have the chance to. It’s one of those books that you feel the need to read every few years just to see how much progress you’ve made towards what you say you hope to accomplish in life. Let’s just say it keeps me on my toes and gets me right back on track when life’s circumstances can be distracting.

6. A Return To Love: This book is nothing short of miraculous. When you read it, you can feel love pouring all over you in the form of understanding, forgiveness, compassion, empathy, and just pure love. Marianne Williamson offers insight into life-lessons she’s learned based off A Course In Miracles, which is a Universal approach to Christian based principles. After reading this book, I felt so connected to everyone on the deepest levels of understanding. Not so much on the shallow tip, but you walk away with the understanding that we are more alike beneath the surface than we are different.

7. A Course In Miracles: As mentioned above, this is literally a life course. It’s like a companion to the Bible or whatever sacred book your faith is based on. Its pretty dense, but I promise everytime I read a page or practice a lesson, I become more open to life and I feel more grounded and loved than ever before. Let’s just say you’ll have to see for yourself.

8. The Four Agreements: Talk about getting to the root of almost all of the problems we face as human beings. This books offers four foundational principles that we should strive to live by, not for religion’s sake, but for our own sanity. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, it touches on limiting beliefs and how we can just about rid ourselves of unnecessary suffering and lead our lives with more love, abundance, and happiness.

9. Blink: This book touches on the power of intuition, or thinking without thinking. Everyday we make decisions, and some are made instinctively, while others are made after thorough investigation. Many times, the best choices are made with little to no explanation, all because something within allows us to make snap judgements that need no justification. Love it!

10. Science Of Mind: I’m currently reading this one and it’s like another companion to whatever your faith is already. It’s metaphysics at its finest and it really focuses on developing discipline to creating a more harmonious world through our individual thoughts. Its philosophy is based on Christian teachings, but it also draws from virtually every spiritual faith as it teaches readers to guide our thoughts intentionally towards a life of health, wealth, success, love, harmony, and peace. Another feel good read every time you pick it up. It’s enlightening and refreshing, and it gives you a sense of peace and personal power.

11. Enchanted Love: The Mystical Power of Intimate Relationships: Marianne Williamson did it again with this one! For me, this one is so necessary for this generation as we have drifted further away from intimacy in our interactions with those in our lives. It’s a collection of personal essays, prayers, and self-reflection of interactions within relationships. It will have you open to acceptance and being accepted, forgiveness, love, intimacy, and attracting the right mate from the right space. It is ever enchanted and another must read.

There’s many more that I’d love to share with you. There’s also so many that I have yet to read. I want to know what books changed the game for you. Please leave a comment if you’ve read any of these books, and share some of your favorite reads below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

The Perfect Stranger: Encounters that leave a lasting impression

“I had pizza and coffee with a perfect stranger today. It reminded me of my journey and why I must answer the call.”- BCSTARKS

Sometimes we get lucky enough to cross paths with just the right people at just the right time in our lives. The kind of encounters where witnessing the other’s passion and purpose somehow ignites our own. I was so fortunate to have been inspired by the perfect stranger. After back and forth dialogue over pizza about the usual run of the mill (You know, the ‘where are you from-s?’ and the ‘what do you do-s?’), we exchanged stories about spirituality and our purpose-driven quests. And as we did, we saw ourselves in one another’s story.

What I was most captivated by was this stranger’s level of passion and dedication to their love for writing. Needless to say I was reminded of my own dance with writing. I was reminded that I have unfinished business to tend to; that I have a story that has yet to be told. I was reminded that just like this stranger, I must make time for the things that fuel my spirit, even if it means turning off to the world and giving myself permission to say no to the things that distract me from my calling.

Just hours before my encounter, I had listened to a speech given by motivational speaker Les Brown on living one’s purpose. In his speech, he spoke about investing time and discipline into one’s passion and gifts so that they may be of good use to the world. He mentioned how even when one feels like they are not truly where they want to be, one can always make the most of the experience by cultivating habits of success. This shift in awareness and perception would allow one to be ready for when opportunities arise where one can share those very gifts with others. By the time an opportunity arises, one will have mastered or refined the very thing that he or she aims to become.

This is where I can be found in my journey. And in a space that doesn’t fit the bill, I choose to spend my time cultivating the traits and skills that play into my life’s purpose. As a result, I can feel several opportunities on the horizon. And you better believe that I will indeed be ready for them.

Dear stranger, yet kindred spirit… your passion is infectious!

 

Love,

@BCSTARKS

The 3 Gems of LIFE: Self-Esteem, Self-Value, & Self-Worth

There’s this reoccurring lesson that keeps presenting itself to me in various forms of my day to day interactions with others. And for a while I didn’t recognize just what it was truly about. In fact, in many of those instances, I thought that somehow life was playing a cruel trick on me. Yes, even I played the victim role. But it hasn’t been until recently that I had to take several steps back and connect the dots in every single one of those scenarios. From interactions with family, boyfriends, co-workers, potential business partners, employers, on down the list… I had been experiencing what felt like a tug-o-war over how I wanted them to see me vs. how I felt I was being treated. And let me tell you, as foolish as this feels for me to admit, I understand that its all a part of growing up. We all have experienced or will experience such a feeling of being under appreciated, or undervalued, especially when we truly know who we are inside.

The trick to something like this is that it’s never really about the people that you are interacting with. In fact, they aren’t even half of the equation of this battle that you’re facing. From what I had to learn, and I’m still absorbing nuggets of wisdom from, is that:

We teach others how to treat us, by the way we treat ourselves

We show people how to interact with us, by the way we interact with ourselves

We inform the world of how much we are worth, by the way we value ourselves

The world looks at us the very same way that we look at ourselves

When we see and feel ugliness and pain within, the world will reflect that same ugliness and pain to us through our interactions

When we see beauty, love, and kindness within, the world will reflect that same beauty, love, and kindness through others

When we show forgiveness for ourselves for our own shortcomings and flaws, it is easier to forgive others, and it unknowingly makes it easier for them to forgive us

When we stand up for ourselves and become our own biggest champion, others will rise to meet us, defend us, and cheer us on

When we feel amazing, unstoppable, and fearless on the inside, life will give us more evidence of just how amazing, unstoppable and unconquerable we really are

When we understand that we and GOD/SOURCE/UNIVERSE are ONE, we understand that we too possess unlimited power and NOTHING or NO ONE outside of us has control over our lives

YOU ARE IN CONTROL of YOU and ONLY YOU!

These nuggets of wisdom come in handy as I continue to sort through what I feel is best for me within my interactions, and in order for me to live my best life. This includes how I wish to be treated by family, friends, significant others, and so on. I’m understanding my role in all of these interactions and how I am hardly ever a victim in any of them. Its all about learning to love myself on the deepest levels, feeling whole and complete at all times (regardless of what I have or have not accomplished), being confident in the woman that I’ve become so far, setting boundaries for what I will and will not tolerate from others (and sticking to it…there’s no point in betraying what you really feel on the inside, otherwise you will attract experiences where others will betray you as well).

Are you starting to get the point here? If more love is what you desire, then figure out where in your life you are not loving yourself enough. Do you often criticize yourself and the way you look? Do you feel like you don’t deserve certain things, even though you really want them? Or do you feel like others won’t do certain things for you, even though you would really like them to? Do you beat up on yourself when you make mistakes or not so great decisions? If so, this is exactly what you are training others to do when they interact with you. To turn it all around, learn to be kind to yourself. Learn to do things for yourself that you would like others to do for you (remember, they are watching your movements and ultimately following your lead). Know that you deserve any and every good thing that you can imagine for your life. And perhaps the people that you are interacting with are not the one’s to give you what you really need. Instead, they are a reflection of who you are choosing to be in those moments. So when you finally wise up and learn to value yourself, perhaps those same people will either step their game up in how they treat you, or disappear altogether and make room for people that will honor this new and improved version of you.

This lesson is something kinda special. I’m not saying that its easy to do either, because one of the hardest things to do in life is to unlearn bad habits. But with effort, gentleness, and time, you can become anything that you want to be!

 

Namaste,

 

@BCSTARKS

Words of Wisdom

Fear is a question: What are you afraid of and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, our fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if we explore them…

-Marilyn Ferguson

Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can!! and I will!!

-Napoleon Hill

If you think of this world as a place intended simply for our happiness, you find it quite intolerable: think of it as a place for correction and it’s not so bad. Imagine a set of people all living in the same building. Half of them think it is a hotel, the other half think it is a prison. Those who think it a hotel might regard it as quite intolerable, and those who thought it was a prison might decide that it was really surprisingly comfortable. So that what seems the ugly doctrine is one that comforts and strengthens you in the end. The people who try to hold an optimistic view of this world would become pessimists: the people who hold a pretty stern view of it become optimistic

-C. S. Lewis

Here’s Why Every Relationship We Ever Have Is SO Important!

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My hope is that I’ve captured this photo large enough for you to read the script on the page. I read this lesson on the importance of relationships last night in my latest favorite book, “A Return to Love” by Merrianne Williamson and it knocked my socks off! Talk about a gut check…

Its always so easy to play victim or to feel like life is happening to us that we tend to forget that when it comes to interactions, it takes two. The energy that you put out, is the very thing that you will get in any interaction. I love this passage b/c it reminds us to focus on love instead of fear, because its the only thing that truly exists; everything else is just an illusion to distract us from the face, goodness, and mercy of God. And those are the things that seperate us from our “Christ-like” ways. A Course In Miracles teaches us that we, like Jesus, were created in God’s likeness (even our thoughts mirror His when we focus on love). The only difference is that we learned to be fearful, which takes on so many negative expressions in life that we often choose wrong. To “sin” merely means to “miss the mark” or to “choose fear over love” and nothing more. In any instance we can choose to be a force of Love or a force of fear. God does not punish us for choosing wrong; for when we choose fear, we are choosing to be in pain. When we choose Love, we choose to heal and be of God’s light. God is not a punishing God despite the teachings of some religions! Instead, he’s always there waiting for us to realize how much he Loves us, and how much he needs us to love ourselves and each other in order to do his will. Thank God for His mercy on us that everyday that we awaken, we have the ability to choose again… we have the chance to choose Love and have evidence of it show up in the form of our relationships and our overall lives on Earth. Amen!

Love this book people! Go get it already and be blessed!,

@BCSTARKS

My Great Big “Aha!” Thanks to @MastinKipp

Last week I read a post on one of my favorite blogs, The Daily Love by Mastin Kipp that touched on one of the life lessons that I’ve been working through lately. This lesson involves learning to accept one’s self as being perfectly imperfect.

We all have our own unique idea of perfection, and yet sadly enough, it is often something that none of us can ever really achieve. As a result of us constantly falling short of the mark of perfection, we often feel inadequate, unworthy, ashamed and ultimately fearful that we are not enough.

Our ideas of perfection are based on what we see in the lives of others. We compare our lives with those that we feel have
what we lack, thus making ourselves somehow insufficient.

Often times we find ourselves engaged in relationships, both personal and professional, that reflect how we value ourselves. In fact, all relationships are a reflection of how we value ourselves. And anything that we can look at and admire in another is merely a reflection of our own true potential… which brings me to the topic of my own revelation.

According to A Course in Miracles, a revelation “refelcts the original form of communication between God and His creations, involving the extremely personal sense of creation sometimes sought in physical relationships… Revelation unites you directly to God.”

In other words, when we experience a revelation it feels so empowering because what is revealed is actually what God has intended life to be like for us. Although I’ve heard it time and time before, my revelation was that God intended for us to know that we are created perfectly imperfect and in his likeness.

However, throughout our lives we often forget this very important truth, and so we seek validation or our sense of worth through relationships with others (personal and professional). We sometimes think that in associating with certain people, places, job titles, or things our value somehow increases or diminishes, when in fact the truth is that we are each individually perfect just as God made us; right where we are in our lives, no matter where we are in our lives. Nothing or no one can define our worth for us, we must know it for ourselves based on God’s truths. We were created in His likeness, and therefore are perfect because we are of Him.

So much for feeling unworthy of anything, for you are worthy of EVERYTHING so long as you BELIEVE. This was such a beautiful revelation for me because I never realized how deep my own feelings of unworthiness had affected my own life experiences and past relationships. But since my revelation, life has opened up to me in so many ways because I can now act from that place of KNOWING who and what I truly am, and where my true strength comes from… nowhere outside of me!

I’m learning to release myself from the addiction known as fear by standing in my truths and walking by faith. My hope is the same for you.

Love,

@BCSTARKS