To have what you want, you must match your desires! #TeamDreamChasers

Happy Sunday dream chasers! I was inspired to blog about a topic that I have dealt with as I continue my own journey to becoming my best self.

For starters, we all have hopes, dreams, and desires for our lives. And oftentimes we wish and pray for these things to manifest, quickly. While that’s all great, we should not forget the key ingredient to having it all… Becoming a match to what you desire. That is, if there’s something that you are wanting in your life (i.e., better relationships, financial health, fancier lifestyle, finding your soul mate, etc.) there is a price that will always have to be paid in order to achieve any of those things. The price that you will have to pay is the “what or  who” it is that you must become in order to attract those things.

“Who or what do I need to become in order to have the things and experiences that I wish to have?”

A few months ago I came across a YouTube video of one of my favorite authors and motivational life coach Tony Robbins in which he discusses this from the standpoint of attracting one’s ideal mate. In this video he explains how one should prepare for being in a most fulfilling relationship by first becoming the best version of one’s self. If you are what you attract, then you must position yourself to attract those people, places, and things that represent your best version of yourself. Whatever that means for you.

Face it, you can’t be the person that wants to attract the most attractive, intelligent, and successful mate if you don’t become the kind of  person that an attractive, intelligent and successful mate would want to date. As Mr. Robbins suggests, one could start by creating very specific lists of his or her desires for whatever area they choose to focus on for the time being. The list must be clear about as many aspects  of the thing as possible. For example: I would love  a mate that is adventurous, loves sports, is philanthropic, loves family, and secure in his being. The next step would be to create a list of the things that I need to become to be the ideal mate for the mate that I wish to attract. Which based on the list above would go something like this: adventurous, at least tolerant and supportive of sports, care a great deal about the wellness of others, be well grounded with my own family (or at least have a strong desire to do so), and love. honor,  and approve of myself no matter what others may think or ask of me. One cannot ask of another what they are not willing to do or be themselves!

And honestly, all of these things take time, so be gentle with your process. You’ll get there!  You just have to be willing to do the work.

So what is it that you wish to attract? Are you willing to become a match to those desires. After all, it is the only way that you can truly achieve those things which are genuinely fulfilling.

Check out the video that inspired the blog below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Life Class Lesson 11: Are You Living A Financial Lie, Or Know Someone Who Is?

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The intentions of this post is to perhaps awaken someone who is dealing with similar issues and want to turn it around, and/or help educate others of the pitfalls of debt that can be avoided. Afterall, when you know better, you CAN do better.

What started as a normal Sunday morning with the fam turned out to be quite lesson filled.

It all began with a wonderful early morning church sermon which taught that the greatest way to give to others is to share with them your own “story.” This lesson resonated with me because I am a firm believer in the power of sharing life lessons. I believe that we all can learn a thing or more from our own experiences, as well as other’s. This of course, is all the more reason to share our own story with those who may benefit from hearing it.

Later in the day, while watching television, my family and I encountered an episode of Oprah’s Life Class in which the topic was “Are You Living A Financial Lie?” During this episode, people discussed their stories of their relationship with money. The stories varied enough that many of us could either personally or indirectly relate to them. In fact, as a bi-product of higher education, I can either relate to or empathize with those who have responsibly or irresponsibly taken advantage of those spooky things that we all know as student loans.

The lesson is that we often create chaos in our own lives when we attempt to fill voids with things outside of ourselves, (such as material things, money, relationships, sex, etc…).

When it comes to debt, however, Americans know first hand how to create it, but rarely ever deals with the “why” because we often don’t know how and where to begin. But the answers can be found within the individual stories of every single one of us who live in this country.

Below are stories of individuals who have dug themselves into financial ditches, but through sharing their story with others, and being honest with themselves, they have since been able to change it all around.  Its never too late to set things straight, but you can only change when you 1) acknowledge that there is a problem, 2) decide to do something about it, and 3) take action towards doing it.

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