How to Float Through Life’s Peaks and Valleys

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It’s funny how life goes through its peaks and valleys. It’s funny how when we’re in the valley or that dark place, it feels like we’re dying a slow death. And when the peaks are peeking or we are experiencing happiness, we feel like we are unstoppable, unconquerable, and outright powerful! And in those moments, we ARE.

Lately, I’ve been on a cloud of unconcealed bliss. My feelings about my life and this journey that I’m on have brought me to this place of peace within. I’ve gotten to this place where I don’t feel the need to worry, even when things outside of me aren’t looking too promising. I no longer look outside of myself for validation of WHO I AM or WHAT my WORTH is. I no longer entertain those who fail to SEE me as I see myself, to respect my evolution and embrace the whole of me. This space that I am in has been carved out for me by God to take place at this point of my life because it was always God and the Universes intention to use my story as a means of reflecting HIS light.

I now trust that every valley that I ever found myself in was there to teach me how strong and resilient I really am. They were there to show me that regardless of the obstacle, LIFE. GOES. ON. And instead of folding, I learned to bend and flex, and sometimes morph into whatever the moment calls for. I was only able to do this when I truly relied on a SOURCE bigger than me.

Being raised in a Christian Baptist faith, I learned the importance of the Bible verse that says something like, “Lean not on your own understanding, but trust in the lord with all your heart. In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6). Well lets just say that I have acknowledge that I don’t walk alone in this world, even when I am alone. I feel very watched over, and protected, and safe, and secure, and befriended, and loved, and appreciated, and forgiven, and trusted, and… Well, I could go on and on, but you get the point. I feel all of these things even when I am alone because I now KNOW that God is in me, and acts through me even unbeknownst to me. And if I know what I know about God, then I KNOW that he is the creator of all things, and can do all things.

With this knowledge, I know that if HE is in me, then it is also true that I too am a creator, and a conqueror, and that with sheer WILL POWER, I can overcome any obstacle placed before me, and still find PEACE in my heart. I thank GOD for this level of understanding! And you should too! Because we all are being walked with throughout our journeys. We are NEVER truly alone. However, It is only when we consciously decide to “lean not” on our own visual understanding of what we see and experience in life, and instead, step outside of our stories and understand the bigger picture of what GOD is doing with our spirits, that we can experience this most profound sense of PEACE and POWER. It is then that you can let go of the blame, and anger, and frustration, and take control of your emotions, and ultimately your LIFE!

I believe that I AM a Teacher of some of life’s most humbling, yet graceful lessons because of the peaks and valleys that I’ve faced along this journey. But I am ever so thankful for them, and I wouldn’t take any one of them away if I had the chance, because they made me who I am today. And like fine wine, I just keep getting better with time! And if you pay attention, so do YOU! 😉

Peace & Love,

@BCSTARKS

When It Comes To Matters Of The Heart…

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It’s been a while since I’ve written about matters of the heart. You know, relationships, intimacy, love… I often purposefully stay away from such matter because I’ve always deemed it too personal or too delicate of a subject to share with my readers. In the past, I preferred to stick to matters of spirit or self-help advice. Its what I know, and where I feel safest.

However,  a few days ago I found myself questioning my own judgement.  I questioned how my decision to limit my writings to only the subjects that I’m comfortable with expressing may indeed be limiting to my own creativity and expression of the whole of me.

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That’s the very reason why I love Drake’s music. He finds himself discussing some of the most uncomfortable matters of the heart in his music. No matter how outlandish the storyline may come off, its real, its raw, and its HIS personal and perfectly imperfect self expression. And it is freely given to all who will listen and ultimately be affected because they too have experienced, or can relate to the emotion behind his experieces… But I’m no Drake, nor do I entertain (well, sometimes). I am however, a living and breathing physical being who is equally creative in so many ways. At this point of my journey, auexpression has become priority in all of my dealings. So here it goes…

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Once upon a time, although not long ago, I would constantly find myself in the most uncomfortable situations. Like most who’ve lived long enough to experience relationships, I’ve experienced the entire spectrum of human emotion. I’ve also seen highs, and many lows. I’ve believed in the impossible, and have also been pessimistic. I’ve tried changing the things that no longer serve me, while simultaneously holding on to patterns and beliefs of past experiences, sometimes to my own detriment. For a long time I’ve unknowingly denied myself of what The Daily Love blogger and life coach Mastin Kipp refers to as a self-approved life. Up until most recently, I would find myself caring entirely too much about what others thought of me. So much that I would either rebel, or end up apologizing for having said the things that I truly felt, all because I was afraid that I wouldn’t be accepted or LOVED.

But as Mark Nepo put it:

“We are broken open, or we Willfully shed”

Being human is NO JOKE!! And all of these experiences have bought me to this part of my journey where I am learning to shed those ideas that others opinions of me should trump my own. Everyday I’m practicing what it means to me to live a self-approved life. Some days this means standing up for myself and not allowing others to take advantage of my kindness, other days this means saying “NO” to the things and people that don’t serve me well or that my inner spirit does not agree with.

In this moment, I’m thankful for being. My heart is in great health, as is my mind, body, and spirit. I feel, and no matter how tough the feelings, I persevere and it always turns out that I’m stronger than I could have ever imagined. I allow myself to make mistakes, forgive, and willingly evolve. I know that Love trumps all and will always and forever be, share, receive and believe in LOVE. I now choose to live self-approved, and I wish you the same.

How’s that for matters of the heart? …For me, it’ll do for now. #SelfApproved #MattersOfTheHeart

Love,

@BCSTARKS