BrittNay’s Corner: What I Resist, Persists…

Today, for the first time I became aware of how often I allow my mind to be consumed by the things and experiences that don’t please me. For the first time I was able to recognize the very moment that my negative thoughts drifted so far that anxiety began to creep up on me. I started feeling anxious and couldn’t focus long enough to complete the task at hand. My emotions were all over the place, and peace was the farthest thing from me. All of this because I could not take my mind off of those things that I believed weren’t working for me. From my current 9-5 and my living situation, to my diet and all the things that I want to change. You name it, my mind was on it. And boy did it go on and on and on…

“Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them.”

Andrew J. Bernstein

That is, until something within me recognized the chaos that was going on my mind. I like to call that something my “inner knowing.” That inner knowing recognized the verbal and emotional assault that I subconsciously inflicted upon myself as I uncontrollably dissected how I could have and should have done things differently, or how the experiences that I was having was somehow less than fair. My observer remained still and awakened to the fact that “it” was not a part of this negative space that was being created within me. This inner knowing knew the truth about life, about my circumstances, and about what is possible for me… and “it” became my great escape from the toxic false reality that I had inflicted upon myself.  Before this moment, I could not see how I was contributing to my own suffering because I would not allow myself to dream a better reality than the one that I was experiencing. The reason I could not dream a better reality is because I would not take my mind off of what was wrong in my eyes.

“Bondage is – subjection to external influences and internal negative thoughts and attitudes.” – W. Clement Stone

After being on this journey for as long as I have, I’d like to think that I’ve learned a thing or two about the truths of life. Thus far, what I know to be true is that the things that you resist in life, will persist. That is to say that whatever one focuses on, and whatever one gives their emotional energy to tends to linger whether positive or negative. This truth lead me to the awareness that I had created a reality for myself that even I disapproved of because I refused to instead shift my attention to everything else that had worked in my favor. In the words of Abraham and Esther Hicks,”I would not let things get good for me” because I was so busy focusing on what I thought was so bad. From this space, it is nearly impossible to welcome any of what God and the Universe has in store for us when we can’t even be grateful for the blessings that we have already.

“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain

It was revealed to me that nothing and no one outside of me had been more instrumental in keeping me from the life that I dream of living than the negative thoughts that I allow to fester in my mind. In this moment, as I share my experience with you, I am thankful for this newfound awareness, for it has now empowered me to know just how much power I have in co-creating my reality.

It is my wish that you will be blessed and brought to a more powerful level of awareness as a result of reading my story. After all, the truth is only a thought that you keep thinking until you believe that its true. DON”T BELIEVE THE LIES!

How much can you relate to my story? I’d love to learn more. Drop a comment below, or shoot me an email at bcstarkspr@gmail.com.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Brittnay’s Corner: I Used To Be A Use To…

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I remember being the girl that would just “go with the flow.” Not honoring what I truly wanted in relationships, hardly ever objecting or resisting the suggestions and opinions of others, making their thoughts and ideas more important than my own. Yeah, I USED to be THAT girl… (**cues Meek Mill “Use To Be”)

Nowadays I’ve grown into my own person, accepting and embracing ALL of the WOMAN that I have become. Especially because I’ve worked so hard to become HER. But I’m noticing the strangest thing happening all around me simultaneously. As my evolution brings me closer to my SOURCE, and now that I am understanding and embracing EXACTLY who I AM; as I become more comfortable with myself, and as I express more self-love and become more vocal about my own desires and feelings, I’m noticing that this evolved version of myself doesn’t sit well with everyone.

In the past few weeks alone, I’ve experienced a barrage of criticism from complete strangers, and some friends, involving their perception of me. I’ve heard things such as, “You come off as a little arrogant,” a bit aggressive, cocky, like you might not take direction very well.” I’ve been told to tone it down,”don’t be so articulate, you’ll intimidate people” (Mind you, this has been said to me in regards to my work place mainly).  It ALL just COMPLETELY blows my mind!! Can you tell?… For me, it feels weird because I was always the one that was considered “so easy going,”… but I wasn’t happy within. But now… OH BUT NOW!

Had I taken any of this criticism to heart, I would be back where I was years ago when I was insecure, indecisive, and oh so lost… Confidence didn’t come easy for me, its something that I’ve intentionally and diligently worked at. I’ve taken some major blows emotionally and psychologically throughout my life, and ultimately I decided that I wouldn’t allow any of it to define me. Still today it takes constant reinforcement and “reminders to self.” I now embody more confidence than I ever have because I choose to believe in myself, and I completely trust myself to always do whats right and what resonates as true from within me. My life experiences have taught me that no one else has the answers to my path but my SOURCE and I.

Much to my surprise, this recent criticism is something that I am actually learning to embrace. To me, it symbolizes that I am on my path to being exactly where GOD wants me to be, because I KNOW who I AM, and WHAT I want, and I’m not afraid to stand up for that. I’m finally at a place where no one else’s opinion of me, or my life matters. Now being mediocre and going with the flow no longer serves me and my ultimate purpose. I was born with a greatness on the inside of me that had been suppressed and looked over for far too long. And this conscious space that I am currently in is calling me to bring forth this greatness, no matter what it involves or who it offends. “Sorry I’m NOT sorry…” I have a desire to be GREAT in ALL that I do. And I don’t care what anyone thinks, my light will shine brighter than ever before! And it feels soooo GOOOD!

Wishing you ALL Love and LIGHT!

@BCSTARKS

P.S.- Check out the song that inspired this post:

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Beauty Inspiration: Queen SNOB @IAmMingLee Is Living Her Dream (Documentary)

Ming Lee, Celebrity Hairstylist and Founder of IAmMingLee.com (Queen SNOB)
Ming Lee, Celebrity Hairstylist and Founder of IAmMingLee.com (Queen SNOB)

I am beyond a sucker for inspirational stories about those who have the audacity to go after their dreams. So when I was able to finally watch #DreamChaser Ming a.k.a. @IAmMingLee’s documentary about how she turned her dreams into a reality, I was totally inspired to share it here with you.  If you don’t know who Ming Lee is, not to be confused with the beautiful pre-teen daughter of Russell Simmons, here’s a few stats on her. She’s a 27-year old celebrity hairstylist based out of Atlanta, Georgia, by way of Detroit, who coined the term “SNOB Life” (for those who keep up on Instagram), and she’s making quite a name for herself.

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I first took notice of her work while surfing YouTube a while ago and seeing some of her many hair tutorials and before and after shots of her own clients. To say the least, I was impressed. So much so that I clicked away at multiple links that lead to her website IamMingLee.com . The site offers a look into her world as a beauty expert, as well as her own online hair and apparel boutique, which she meticulously branded her namesake. It’s also the place where I discovered the term “SNOB” and everything that it stands for according to Ming and her social media followers. The term was born out of a long-held desire of Ming to one day be successful enough to live a lifestyle of the elite. And so it is.

I am building my empire for all women with the means to inspire all to be the Queen of their dreams and remembering to bring others up with you and to spread your blessings. – Celebrity Hairstylist Ming Lee

Now owner of her newly opened beauty oasis, Snob Life Studios in Atlanta, among other “SNOB-inspired” products, Ming is quickly growing her empire and creating a buzz while doing it. And she doesn’t plan on stopping anytime soon. She even created what’s know as the “snob stare” (a.k.a the stank face) in the social media sphere, which had her followers stare-off frenzy. (Peep the stare below)

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I’ve followed Ming on Instagram for about a year now and I have gained the utmost respect for her story, her ambition and life philosophy, and her #DreamMaking and #DreamTaking pursuit to building her empire. Bravo Ming!! Totally looking forward to crossing paths with this self-made #BossLady. Until then, check out her self-told documentary It Was All A Dream (below), in which she offers highlights of her journey and encourage others to follow their dreams. Be inspired!   Love, @BCSTARKS [vimeo http://vimeo.com/68595726]

Featured Dream Chaser: Khari Burke’s NFL Dreams Makes Him Ball Hard, Study Harder

Khari Burke, #7 CB for MTSU

Meet Khari Burke, current junior and Corner Back for the Middle Tennessee State University  Blue Raiders. GO BLUE!

This featured dream chaser is near and dear to my heart, mostly because I used to change his diapers… and, he’s one of the most humble and unknowingly wise people who I know. Yes, he’s my kid brother, but that’s not why he’s featured in this post. A few weeks ago he came home for winter break and I couldn’t help but be inspired by his dedication to working hard at his craft , even in the off-season. Early morning workouts with fellow teammates, beach runs on the sand… You name it, he was on it.

Football has been a major part of my family as I have relatives that have played in the NFL and brothers that have played football from the time they were in middle school, until college. With Khari, football is something that he became passionate about as early as elementary school. In fact, I remember when he was in middle school and he begged our mother to let him play in a local optimist league, and she declined. Finally he got an uncle to agree to sponsor him, and the rest is history. All throughout high school he would get an earful from me as his big sister to make education his #1 priority. As the first in my family to graduate college, I wanted to set the bar high and show those that followed how important and attainable an education is (not only for the sake of a degree, but for the sake of learning will power and the priceless experiences and relationships formed along the way). Well, I always assumed that my words fell upon deaf ears as they typically do when little brothers feel that their being preached to. That could not have been further from the truth.

Khari Burke
Khari Burke

Back in 2009, Khari had transitioned from optimist to high school football where of course around the same time he was hit with the “what do you want to do with your life?” question. His response, “play football…” From there he made the decision on what path he wanted his life to take, of course not without a few bumps in the road. And ever since, the Universe has conspired in his favor. As a broadcast journalism major in college, I used my editing skills and resources to help him put together a highlight tape during his junior year.

I even introduced him to my good friend and schoolmate New York Giants safety Kenny Phillips for a bit of inspiration. My oldest brother, who had been a top college football recruit before experiencing career ending injuries, orchestrated a plan that would take Khari from a no-name highschool player (then, no player from his school had been given a football scholarship in years) to a nationally ranked and highly scouted cornerback. His only requirement for such cooperation was to give it everything he had every time he touched the field and make sure that his grades were excellent. He kept his end of the bargain, and so did we. Just a few weeks after uploading his highlight film on YouTube our mailbox was flooded with recruiting letters from top Division I universities. Khari now had options to choose from, and MTSU was at the top of the list. He even caught the attention of local media, and managed to make his way onto the All County First Team, and also played in the Dade vs. Broward game.

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These days he’s hitting the books harder than ever and has made the dean’s list just about every semester during his college career. Against all odds, Khari continues to show just how far hard work, dedication, and belief in one’s self can take you. He puts the “student” in student athlete as he is now a red-shirted sophomore on academic course to receive his Master’s degree before leaving college. Those things, coupled with the power of God and the workings of the Universe, make for one heck of a recipe. Kudos to him for leading by example and being an inspiration to others, especially his big sis.

Khari Burke and @BCSTARKS
Khari Burke and @BCSTARKS… sibling love! xox

Check out the film that started it all below, and keep an eye out for this quiet storm. 😉

Khari Burke Junior Highlight Film

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXI6kdzdtak

Khari Burke Senior Highlight Film

Love you KB and may all your dreams continue to come true!

@BCSTARKS

Brittnay’s Corner: Oprah’s Life Class Season Premier (Twitter Edition)

PAIN = Pay Attention Inward Now. Don’t look for anything or anyone outside of you to fix it – Iyanla Vanzant

Tonight was the season premier of Oprah’s Life Class on OWN, and it was AMAZING!!!!  In case you missed it, you can visit Oprah.com to watch the live stream (which may not be available until tomorrow, after it has aired worldwide). The subject for tonight’s class was “Are you living in pain?” and let’s just say that it was a life lesson that can help us all heal. Tonight’s teacher was life coach, spiritual teacher, and author Iyanla Vanzant, whom I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

The people and the stories were phenomenal! I was under the impression that one of my favorite bloggers Mastin Kipp, founder of TheDailyLove.com, would be on the show as well… so I tweeted it in excitement.

Well, Mastin replied by tweeting me that he would only be blogging live from the show, and I was just beyond thrilled that he saw my tweet.

I tweeted so much out of my excitement for the world to embrace the change that is needed in humanity, that I caught the attention of @OWNtv, and they replied to me as well.

I must have been in tune with my spirit, and their intentions as well, for two of my inspirations for inspiring others to see my tweets amongst hundreds of thousands of others, and reply to me tonight. It was UBER COOL!

I also felt the outpour of others who were living a life of pain, and so I tweeted my little heart out tonight… My prayer is that I helped those who don’t know their own strength, through sharing what I now know for sure… The Kingdom of heaven is WITHIN! (Check ya Bible for that one!) 🙂

#AMEN

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Featured Dream Chaser UPDATE: Misha Vaidya Does NY Fashion Week 2012!!!

That’s right, former Featured Dream Chaser, and creator of By Misha clothing line, Misha Vaidya is headed to  New York Fashion Week 2012. If you remember her inspiring story, then you know that someone’s been doing some major grinding in 2011.

Having recently completed her 2nd photo shoot EVER, Misha is on her way to the land of opportunities abound for a fashion designer. Not too bad for newbie ;-). Check out the official invitation and RSVP if you’ll be in the area.

I’m still drooling over her “Tea Time” Collection. Can’t wait to see what’s next. Check out some pictures from By Misha’s Tea Time Collection… the vision that started it all.

Cancer: “Incurable” means to cure from within #RIPSTEVEJOBS

“Every time you hear something is “incurable,” know that they have not yet discovered a cure for it and you must go within to find your own solution. Know that there is an Intelligence greater.”-Louise Hay

This post comes just hours after news of the loss of Steve Jobs, a great American icon who changed the way that we view apples forever (founder and former CEO of Apple, Inc.). His story of how he helped changed the world by believing in himself and his vision is beyond inspiring. It is uplifting, re-assuring, and outright BOLD. Words can hardly describe what his presence on earth has really meant for me, but I am grateful that we live during this time when technology has become a major part of our everyday lives, and much of that can be attributed to this man.

I was inspired to write this post because of the very thing that eventually took the life of such an amazing being, cancer. It’s a disease that has consumed the lives of many, especially in this day in age when day-to-day life is much more taxing, stress levels are high, people struggle to cope with life, pollution and contamination has made a home in our planet and in our foods, and the true power of human beings has become largely tainted and blurred by the nothingness of what we once thought meant something.

Oftentimes when we deal with issues of health, we are trained to rely heavily on traditional medicine, which varies according to a person’s religious or spiritual views. But what happens when the diagnosis is labeled as “incurable”? When we break down the word for what it truly symbolizes in its essence, “in” is a prefix that means “not” or “inside,” “cure” means to “relieve of disease” or “remedy/restore health,” and “-able” means “capable of.” Incurable means “to cure within”

When something is incurable it means that we are capable of, or have the ability to restore health from within.”

When we hear the daunting word “incurable” slip off of the lips of our trusted physicians, it then becomes our duty to take back our power though the understanding that since nothing outside of us can heal what it is that we are dealing with, we must go deep within to do work on levels beyond the physical. We must then rely on a SOURCE much greater, and capable than man himself.

Although our species has been gifted with immeasurable power, there is a SOURCE from even whence we’ve come, and it is far more powerful than we could ever imagine, and it lives within us all. Our SOURCE is what every philosopher, Saint, religion points us in the direction of. And based on what we know as humans, through our SOURCE all things are possible… Yes, even a cure. And many people are living testaments of just how powerful this very idea has been for them, even in the face of the “incurable.”

Steve Jobs is one of these people, for when he was first diagnosed with this incurable form of cancer, he was told that he would live only a few months. However, 8 years later, we would learn that it was largely his desire to live, along with the help of traditional medicine, that carried him the extra mile. Millions of other people can also attest to the power of “will” and the mind in terms of determining their fate.

Thankfully one of those people is a woman by the name of Louise L. Hay. She is known as the woman who cured herself of cancer, through lots of spiritual, health, and mental work. She has been a pioneer in the part of science that has been largely ignored for thousands of years, metaphysics (the study of the connection of the mind and body). She’s taken the spiritual approach to get people to understand the true power of the human mind and body in her literary work titled,YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE. In the same ways that Jesus tried to let man understand their true power through GOD, Louise does the very same thing, and on many levels she is a modern-day saint.

For her works, and for all that Steve Jobs stood for I say, “NAMASTE!” (which means “I salute the Divine within you; I salute your God-given gifts). To the person who has lived to hear the word incurable slapped across their life’s timeline, I say, “That which man cannot do, GOD CAN… and BEYOND.”

Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you. – Luke 17:20-21 (King James Version)

Please check out these interview clips from YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS