BrittNay’s Corner: What I Resist, Persists…

Today, for the first time I became aware of how often I allow my mind to be consumed by the things and experiences that don’t please me. For the first time I was able to recognize the very moment that my negative thoughts drifted so far that anxiety began to creep up on me. I started feeling anxious and couldn’t focus long enough to complete the task at hand. My emotions were all over the place, and peace was the farthest thing from me. All of this because I could not take my mind off of those things that I believed weren’t working for me. From my current 9-5 and my living situation, to my diet and all the things that I want to change. You name it, my mind was on it. And boy did it go on and on and on…

“Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them.”

Andrew J. Bernstein

That is, until something within me recognized the chaos that was going on my mind. I like to call that something my “inner knowing.” That inner knowing recognized the verbal and emotional assault that I subconsciously inflicted upon myself as I uncontrollably dissected how I could have and should have done things differently, or how the experiences that I was having was somehow less than fair. My observer remained still and awakened to the fact that “it” was not a part of this negative space that was being created within me. This inner knowing knew the truth about life, about my circumstances, and about what is possible for me… and “it” became my great escape from the toxic false reality that I had inflicted upon myself.  Before this moment, I could not see how I was contributing to my own suffering because I would not allow myself to dream a better reality than the one that I was experiencing. The reason I could not dream a better reality is because I would not take my mind off of what was wrong in my eyes.

“Bondage is – subjection to external influences and internal negative thoughts and attitudes.” – W. Clement Stone

After being on this journey for as long as I have, I’d like to think that I’ve learned a thing or two about the truths of life. Thus far, what I know to be true is that the things that you resist in life, will persist. That is to say that whatever one focuses on, and whatever one gives their emotional energy to tends to linger whether positive or negative. This truth lead me to the awareness that I had created a reality for myself that even I disapproved of because I refused to instead shift my attention to everything else that had worked in my favor. In the words of Abraham and Esther Hicks,”I would not let things get good for me” because I was so busy focusing on what I thought was so bad. From this space, it is nearly impossible to welcome any of what God and the Universe has in store for us when we can’t even be grateful for the blessings that we have already.

“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain

It was revealed to me that nothing and no one outside of me had been more instrumental in keeping me from the life that I dream of living than the negative thoughts that I allow to fester in my mind. In this moment, as I share my experience with you, I am thankful for this newfound awareness, for it has now empowered me to know just how much power I have in co-creating my reality.

It is my wish that you will be blessed and brought to a more powerful level of awareness as a result of reading my story. After all, the truth is only a thought that you keep thinking until you believe that its true. DON”T BELIEVE THE LIES!

How much can you relate to my story? I’d love to learn more. Drop a comment below, or shoot me an email at bcstarkspr@gmail.com.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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To have what you want, you must match your desires! #TeamDreamChasers

Happy Sunday dream chasers! I was inspired to blog about a topic that I have dealt with as I continue my own journey to becoming my best self.

For starters, we all have hopes, dreams, and desires for our lives. And oftentimes we wish and pray for these things to manifest, quickly. While that’s all great, we should not forget the key ingredient to having it all… Becoming a match to what you desire. That is, if there’s something that you are wanting in your life (i.e., better relationships, financial health, fancier lifestyle, finding your soul mate, etc.) there is a price that will always have to be paid in order to achieve any of those things. The price that you will have to pay is the “what or  who” it is that you must become in order to attract those things.

“Who or what do I need to become in order to have the things and experiences that I wish to have?”

A few months ago I came across a YouTube video of one of my favorite authors and motivational life coach Tony Robbins in which he discusses this from the standpoint of attracting one’s ideal mate. In this video he explains how one should prepare for being in a most fulfilling relationship by first becoming the best version of one’s self. If you are what you attract, then you must position yourself to attract those people, places, and things that represent your best version of yourself. Whatever that means for you.

Face it, you can’t be the person that wants to attract the most attractive, intelligent, and successful mate if you don’t become the kind of  person that an attractive, intelligent and successful mate would want to date. As Mr. Robbins suggests, one could start by creating very specific lists of his or her desires for whatever area they choose to focus on for the time being. The list must be clear about as many aspects  of the thing as possible. For example: I would love  a mate that is adventurous, loves sports, is philanthropic, loves family, and secure in his being. The next step would be to create a list of the things that I need to become to be the ideal mate for the mate that I wish to attract. Which based on the list above would go something like this: adventurous, at least tolerant and supportive of sports, care a great deal about the wellness of others, be well grounded with my own family (or at least have a strong desire to do so), and love. honor,  and approve of myself no matter what others may think or ask of me. One cannot ask of another what they are not willing to do or be themselves!

And honestly, all of these things take time, so be gentle with your process. You’ll get there!  You just have to be willing to do the work.

So what is it that you wish to attract? Are you willing to become a match to those desires. After all, it is the only way that you can truly achieve those things which are genuinely fulfilling.

Check out the video that inspired the blog below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

You are already all that you desire to be

For many, the very idea of this sounds strange, untrue even. But I would challenge you to say that it cannot be any closer to the truth. If you can accept the idea that you become your thoughts to be true, then the idea that you are currently living previous thoughts should also resonate with you.

I have come to know that everything that you consistently and chronically give your attention to is what your world becomes. That includes the good and the bad.

If all that you can see in your current reality are the things that you do not want to exist, then you are only going to draw more things and experiences that you resent. But if you can allow yourself to feel the wholeness of who GOD has intended you to be, and find more things to appreciate about your reality, you will allow more goodness to flow into your life.

In doing so, you will begin to look for more positive people to be around, positive situations to be a part of, opportunities to be productive, and areas to grow. You will take action from a place of knowing that no matter what you see going on around you, all that you can envision for your life is possible.

The biggest change that needs to take place to live in the abundance of your imagination is your perception and dominant thoughts about things.-BCSTARKS

As you practice the art of focusing your attention to more of what is right, not what is wrong in life, you will begin  to see that you are never really far from being all that you wish to be. In fact, you are already there. All you have to do is be. Just BE!

BCSTARKS, over and out! 🙂