When Asked If I Am Truly Happy, Here’s What I Had To Say…

happiness_quote1I had someone ask me the other day if I am truly HAPPY. Their question was in reference to a picture that I posted of myself on Instagram. I took a selfie of me wearing a new sweater from one of my favorite positive apparel brands Peace Love World. And on that sweater were the words “I AM HAPPY” in big bold white and yellow letters. For a moment I had to pause when I was asked the question, not because it struck a nerve that someone would question my personal satisfaction with life, but because I had to take all of my life as a whole into consideration. My conclusion and response to them was this:

Yes, I AM HAPPY… In fact, I’m probably the happiest that I’ve ever been in my entire life despite what circumstances may appear to be. I’m happy because I now know the truth about life. Happiness to me doesn’t mean that I won’t sometimes think negative thoughts, or feel sad, or cry because things just aren’t going right. Instead happiness means that in the midst of those things, I have the full power to choose how I will respond to every situation, and how I will allow those things to affect me emotionally. I know for sure that no matter what happens to me, no matter how bad or good it may be, I have the power to control my thoughts about everything and ultimately change my experience from negative to positive. I have full control over how I allow things to affect me based on what I choose to give my attention to. I can choose to make things that displease me the focus of my world, or I can refocus my attention on what I love about my life, and how much I’m growing and improving every single day. Both are choices dealing with my thoughts, but one bears fruit of emotional chaos, while the other bears fruit of peace and serenity. It makes me happiest to know that life is not happening to me, but that I am an active participant in my every interaction and experience. It makes me happiest to know that GOD trusts me with this personal power to get back on right track whenever I am distracted and veer off course. I have choices, WE ALL DO! And even when I don’t make the best ones, I can easily redirect my path by making a better one, moment by moment. So yes, I AM HAPPY!

And just as if my answer was somehow part of what resonated with their inner being, they nodded in satisfaction for they too had accepted my truth as their own… Are you truly happy? I’d like to know your take on what it means to be happy. Drop me a line… (that means comment below) 🙂

Namaste,

@BCSTARKS

 

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Happiness Is Found In the Choices YOU Make!

The new year is already 8 days old and there have been so many lessons that I’m sure we all have walked away from 2012 with. For me, the journey of 2012 lead me to places I never thought I’d be… spiritually, physically, and especially emotionally.

Last year alone I experienced every human emotion possible, oftentimes feeling more lost than found. For a while I couldn’t understand what God and the Universe were doing with me. And at one point I felt resentful for some of the experiences that I had endured. That was until I realized that I had more power than what I had given myself credit for. Yes, I had the power of choice! It’s the one thing that we as humans have complete control over, even if we can control nothing else… We experience life according to the choices we make. We can choose to play victim and have life happen to us, or we can choose to be a co-creator in our own happiness. Yes, we can CHOOSE HAPPY!

Happiness is a choice that we make with every passing moment. We can choose grace, love and gratitude, or we can choose misery and fear. Since I’m writing this post, you can probably guess which choice I made. That’s right, 2012 may have been quite the challenge, but it wasn’t the deciding factor in my journey. If last year’s phase taught me nothing else, I learned that I can determine my own happiness with a simple shift in awareness and the courage to choose different. If things are going well and you feel a sense of contentment, keep doing those things that serve you best. But if you start to feel that your world is being turned upside down and you are becoming a helpless observer to your own misery, then my friend you need to make some different choices.

As for me, I chose to write this blog post after so long because writing is one of the things in life that makes me happy. I’ve also made some major choices about the direction that I want my life to go in. I’ll  be sure to keep you updated with my progress through BCSTARKS.com. Until then, choose wisely.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Here’s Why Every Relationship We Ever Have Is SO Important!

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My hope is that I’ve captured this photo large enough for you to read the script on the page. I read this lesson on the importance of relationships last night in my latest favorite book, “A Return to Love” by Merrianne Williamson and it knocked my socks off! Talk about a gut check…

Its always so easy to play victim or to feel like life is happening to us that we tend to forget that when it comes to interactions, it takes two. The energy that you put out, is the very thing that you will get in any interaction. I love this passage b/c it reminds us to focus on love instead of fear, because its the only thing that truly exists; everything else is just an illusion to distract us from the face, goodness, and mercy of God. And those are the things that seperate us from our “Christ-like” ways. A Course In Miracles teaches us that we, like Jesus, were created in God’s likeness (even our thoughts mirror His when we focus on love). The only difference is that we learned to be fearful, which takes on so many negative expressions in life that we often choose wrong. To “sin” merely means to “miss the mark” or to “choose fear over love” and nothing more. In any instance we can choose to be a force of Love or a force of fear. God does not punish us for choosing wrong; for when we choose fear, we are choosing to be in pain. When we choose Love, we choose to heal and be of God’s light. God is not a punishing God despite the teachings of some religions! Instead, he’s always there waiting for us to realize how much he Loves us, and how much he needs us to love ourselves and each other in order to do his will. Thank God for His mercy on us that everyday that we awaken, we have the ability to choose again… we have the chance to choose Love and have evidence of it show up in the form of our relationships and our overall lives on Earth. Amen!

Love this book people! Go get it already and be blessed!,

@BCSTARKS

Words of Wisdom: The Power of Choice and Change

“Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you… yet, someone survived… You can do anything you choose to do.” –Maya Angelou

“All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” –Walt Disney

“Remembering you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” -Steve Jobs

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” –Michael Jordan

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” –Jim Rohn

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” -Tony Robbins

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” -Maria Robinson