Brittnay’s Corner: I Used To Be A Use To…

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I remember being the girl that would just “go with the flow.” Not honoring what I truly wanted in relationships, hardly ever objecting or resisting the suggestions and opinions of others, making their thoughts and ideas more important than my own. Yeah, I USED to be THAT girl… (**cues Meek Mill “Use To Be”)

Nowadays I’ve grown into my own person, accepting and embracing ALL of the WOMAN that I have become. Especially because I’ve worked so hard to become HER. But I’m noticing the strangest thing happening all around me simultaneously. As my evolution brings me closer to my SOURCE, and now that I am understanding and embracing EXACTLY who I AM; as I become more comfortable with myself, and as I express more self-love and become more vocal about my own desires and feelings, I’m noticing that this evolved version of myself doesn’t sit well with everyone.

In the past few weeks alone, I’ve experienced a barrage of criticism from complete strangers, and some friends, involving their perception of me. I’ve heard things such as, “You come off as a little arrogant,” a bit aggressive, cocky, like you might not take direction very well.” I’ve been told to tone it down,”don’t be so articulate, you’ll intimidate people” (Mind you, this has been said to me in regards to my work place mainly).  It ALL just COMPLETELY blows my mind!! Can you tell?… For me, it feels weird because I was always the one that was considered “so easy going,”… but I wasn’t happy within. But now… OH BUT NOW!

Had I taken any of this criticism to heart, I would be back where I was years ago when I was insecure, indecisive, and oh so lost… Confidence didn’t come easy for me, its something that I’ve intentionally and diligently worked at. I’ve taken some major blows emotionally and psychologically throughout my life, and ultimately I decided that I wouldn’t allow any of it to define me. Still today it takes constant reinforcement and “reminders to self.” I now embody more confidence than I ever have because I choose to believe in myself, and I completely trust myself to always do whats right and what resonates as true from within me. My life experiences have taught me that no one else has the answers to my path but my SOURCE and I.

Much to my surprise, this recent criticism is something that I am actually learning to embrace. To me, it symbolizes that I am on my path to being exactly where GOD wants me to be, because I KNOW who I AM, and WHAT I want, and I’m not afraid to stand up for that. I’m finally at a place where no one else’s opinion of me, or my life matters. Now being mediocre and going with the flow no longer serves me and my ultimate purpose. I was born with a greatness on the inside of me that had been suppressed and looked over for far too long. And this conscious space that I am currently in is calling me to bring forth this greatness, no matter what it involves or who it offends. “Sorry I’m NOT sorry…” I have a desire to be GREAT in ALL that I do. And I don’t care what anyone thinks, my light will shine brighter than ever before! And it feels soooo GOOOD!

Wishing you ALL Love and LIGHT!

@BCSTARKS

P.S.- Check out the song that inspired this post:

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Words of Wisdom

Fear is a question: What are you afraid of and why? Just as the seed of health is in illness, because illness contains information, our fears are a treasure house of self-knowledge if we explore them…

-Marilyn Ferguson

Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can!! and I will!!

-Napoleon Hill

If you think of this world as a place intended simply for our happiness, you find it quite intolerable: think of it as a place for correction and it’s not so bad. Imagine a set of people all living in the same building. Half of them think it is a hotel, the other half think it is a prison. Those who think it a hotel might regard it as quite intolerable, and those who thought it was a prison might decide that it was really surprisingly comfortable. So that what seems the ugly doctrine is one that comforts and strengthens you in the end. The people who try to hold an optimistic view of this world would become pessimists: the people who hold a pretty stern view of it become optimistic

-C. S. Lewis

Brittnay’s Corner: Oprah’s Life Class Season Premier (Twitter Edition)

PAIN = Pay Attention Inward Now. Don’t look for anything or anyone outside of you to fix it – Iyanla Vanzant

Tonight was the season premier of Oprah’s Life Class on OWN, and it was AMAZING!!!!  In case you missed it, you can visit Oprah.com to watch the live stream (which may not be available until tomorrow, after it has aired worldwide). The subject for tonight’s class was “Are you living in pain?” and let’s just say that it was a life lesson that can help us all heal. Tonight’s teacher was life coach, spiritual teacher, and author Iyanla Vanzant, whom I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

The people and the stories were phenomenal! I was under the impression that one of my favorite bloggers Mastin Kipp, founder of TheDailyLove.com, would be on the show as well… so I tweeted it in excitement.

Well, Mastin replied by tweeting me that he would only be blogging live from the show, and I was just beyond thrilled that he saw my tweet.

I tweeted so much out of my excitement for the world to embrace the change that is needed in humanity, that I caught the attention of @OWNtv, and they replied to me as well.

I must have been in tune with my spirit, and their intentions as well, for two of my inspirations for inspiring others to see my tweets amongst hundreds of thousands of others, and reply to me tonight. It was UBER COOL!

I also felt the outpour of others who were living a life of pain, and so I tweeted my little heart out tonight… My prayer is that I helped those who don’t know their own strength, through sharing what I now know for sure… The Kingdom of heaven is WITHIN! (Check ya Bible for that one!) 🙂

#AMEN

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Brittnay’s Corner: Holiday Hopes for All

I started this blog  about 9 months ago with the intention of inspiring as many people as possible to follow their dreams and be encouraged. As my readers know, since I have stated so in many of my posts, I often share  the things that inspire me because like others, I can often use the same encouragement.

This year I’ve undergone so much growth and improvement, as I am sure you have also. And much like you, I still have more room to grow. For example, although I have become a lot less fearful of taking chances, I still have fears about what the future holds for me. Yes, I am optimistic and hopeful, but I’m honest about the fact that sometimes I wish I could control more than what I am able to (control freak much?!… Don’t judge me. Lol)

Seriously, this time of year always gives me that “you have got to get it together” feeling… and I’m not sure if that’s necessarily a good thing. But what I am sure about is that I now know how important it is to trust and respect life’s processes, because no matter how much we may plan and hope and wish and pray for something other than what is with us in the present moment,  life will have its way with us and make sure that we learn the lessons that we are meant to learn in this lifetime.

My holiday hopes for myself and everyone who is reading this is that, while moving forward in our journeys, we will be open to trusting life a little bit more, believing  in ourselves a little bit more, letting our light shine a little bit more, and have the determination to not let anyone or anything steer us off course from our goals and dreams.

With that being said, Happy Holidays to all!

 

Love,

@BCSTARKS

P.S.-  Check out what one of my favorite up and coming hair companies, B Long LLC wishes for everyone this holiday season. BTW, this is the dream that I have worked towards all this time that has required much inspiration on my part. It’s all coming together slowly but surely.  😉

My Unexpected Degree In Psychology ( I Didn’t Do It On Purpose!)

When I signed up to get a Master’s Degree in Public Relations, I was signing up to do what I had always done ever since I was a little girl… Try to gain understanding so that I could create understanding among many. I didn’t realize that life was leading me towards my purpose until a couple of days ago…

It’s funny how nothing in life is ever coincidental. It all means something in the grander scheme of things. And it all has to happen the way that it does, to get you where you need to be. No matter how good or bad things seem in the moment.

I recently wrote a post on my Public Relations blog that reflected on the nature of public relations being closely tied to the field of psychology. I never would have thought that what I do, and what I’m striving to become, would mean so much to this world… because regardless of the scenario, at our core, all human beings want to be understood and to know that they matter.

Who would have thought that GOD would use me in this way. I now get that my life is being used for a purpose greater than myself. Yes, even when the issues that I  deal with seem all too personal, they are merely reminders that my lessons are not just my own. They are life lessons to be understood by me, and then shared with many others so that they too can understand themselves and other people.

I’m thankful for this revelation… But, I also know that I make a better PR professional than I would a psychologist. There’s still so much to learn.

Love,

@BCSTARKS a.k.a. The Dream Maker

What I know for sure…

“Yes, it’s the famous line that I borrowed from my “SheRo” Oprah Winfrey.”

I know that my life thus far has been unfolding for no reason short of greatness. I don’t write this to seem arrogant, or overly assured. Instead I write this with the same spirit of which our favorite rappers, or poets prophesy over their own destiny. I write these lines with conviction because I un-mistakenly believe that “your life becomes what you believe.”

I believe that one day I will remember this blog post and know that I was never wrong about how I’ve always felt… that my strengths will strengthen a movement so powerful, and so ordained by GOD and the Universe, that its will cannot, and will not be denied.

What I know for sure is that I will never stop learning and growing in the direction of my spirit’s song.

What I know for sure is that the dreams that I dream do not compare to that which the Universe sees fit for its world and the people in it.

What I know for sure is that I am thankful that man’s vision cannot touch that of GOD’s, because that… that would be much too overwhelming for the human subconscious to hold true.

What I know for sure is that the vision that I have been entrusted with by GOD has led me to spend my life’s breaths ensuring that I continuously work in the direction of its fulfillment.

What I know for sure is that inspiration and humility are a major part of my life’s purpose. And so, that is what I will continue to nurture, share, live, and be. I pray that all who read this and become inspired by it will do the same… Know what you “know” about your life for sure.

Love,

@BCSTARKS