BrittNay’s Corner: What I Resist, Persists…

Today, for the first time I became aware of how often I allow my mind to be consumed by the things and experiences that don’t please me. For the first time I was able to recognize the very moment that my negative thoughts drifted so far that anxiety began to creep up on me. I started feeling anxious and couldn’t focus long enough to complete the task at hand. My emotions were all over the place, and peace was the farthest thing from me. All of this because I could not take my mind off of those things that I believed weren’t working for me. From my current 9-5 and my living situation, to my diet and all the things that I want to change. You name it, my mind was on it. And boy did it go on and on and on…

“Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them.”

Andrew J. Bernstein

That is, until something within me recognized the chaos that was going on my mind. I like to call that something my “inner knowing.” That inner knowing recognized the verbal and emotional assault that I subconsciously inflicted upon myself as I uncontrollably dissected how I could have and should have done things differently, or how the experiences that I was having was somehow less than fair. My observer remained still and awakened to the fact that “it” was not a part of this negative space that was being created within me. This inner knowing knew the truth about life, about my circumstances, and about what is possible for me… and “it” became my great escape from the toxic false reality that I had inflicted upon myself.  Before this moment, I could not see how I was contributing to my own suffering because I would not allow myself to dream a better reality than the one that I was experiencing. The reason I could not dream a better reality is because I would not take my mind off of what was wrong in my eyes.

“Bondage is – subjection to external influences and internal negative thoughts and attitudes.” – W. Clement Stone

After being on this journey for as long as I have, I’d like to think that I’ve learned a thing or two about the truths of life. Thus far, what I know to be true is that the things that you resist in life, will persist. That is to say that whatever one focuses on, and whatever one gives their emotional energy to tends to linger whether positive or negative. This truth lead me to the awareness that I had created a reality for myself that even I disapproved of because I refused to instead shift my attention to everything else that had worked in my favor. In the words of Abraham and Esther Hicks,”I would not let things get good for me” because I was so busy focusing on what I thought was so bad. From this space, it is nearly impossible to welcome any of what God and the Universe has in store for us when we can’t even be grateful for the blessings that we have already.

“You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain

It was revealed to me that nothing and no one outside of me had been more instrumental in keeping me from the life that I dream of living than the negative thoughts that I allow to fester in my mind. In this moment, as I share my experience with you, I am thankful for this newfound awareness, for it has now empowered me to know just how much power I have in co-creating my reality.

It is my wish that you will be blessed and brought to a more powerful level of awareness as a result of reading my story. After all, the truth is only a thought that you keep thinking until you believe that its true. DON”T BELIEVE THE LIES!

How much can you relate to my story? I’d love to learn more. Drop a comment below, or shoot me an email at bcstarkspr@gmail.com.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

The 3 Gems of LIFE: Self-Esteem, Self-Value, & Self-Worth

There’s this reoccurring lesson that keeps presenting itself to me in various forms of my day to day interactions with others. And for a while I didn’t recognize just what it was truly about. In fact, in many of those instances, I thought that somehow life was playing a cruel trick on me. Yes, even I played the victim role. But it hasn’t been until recently that I had to take several steps back and connect the dots in every single one of those scenarios. From interactions with family, boyfriends, co-workers, potential business partners, employers, on down the list… I had been experiencing what felt like a tug-o-war over how I wanted them to see me vs. how I felt I was being treated. And let me tell you, as foolish as this feels for me to admit, I understand that its all a part of growing up. We all have experienced or will experience such a feeling of being under appreciated, or undervalued, especially when we truly know who we are inside.

The trick to something like this is that it’s never really about the people that you are interacting with. In fact, they aren’t even half of the equation of this battle that you’re facing. From what I had to learn, and I’m still absorbing nuggets of wisdom from, is that:

We teach others how to treat us, by the way we treat ourselves

We show people how to interact with us, by the way we interact with ourselves

We inform the world of how much we are worth, by the way we value ourselves

The world looks at us the very same way that we look at ourselves

When we see and feel ugliness and pain within, the world will reflect that same ugliness and pain to us through our interactions

When we see beauty, love, and kindness within, the world will reflect that same beauty, love, and kindness through others

When we show forgiveness for ourselves for our own shortcomings and flaws, it is easier to forgive others, and it unknowingly makes it easier for them to forgive us

When we stand up for ourselves and become our own biggest champion, others will rise to meet us, defend us, and cheer us on

When we feel amazing, unstoppable, and fearless on the inside, life will give us more evidence of just how amazing, unstoppable and unconquerable we really are

When we understand that we and GOD/SOURCE/UNIVERSE are ONE, we understand that we too possess unlimited power and NOTHING or NO ONE outside of us has control over our lives

YOU ARE IN CONTROL of YOU and ONLY YOU!

These nuggets of wisdom come in handy as I continue to sort through what I feel is best for me within my interactions, and in order for me to live my best life. This includes how I wish to be treated by family, friends, significant others, and so on. I’m understanding my role in all of these interactions and how I am hardly ever a victim in any of them. Its all about learning to love myself on the deepest levels, feeling whole and complete at all times (regardless of what I have or have not accomplished), being confident in the woman that I’ve become so far, setting boundaries for what I will and will not tolerate from others (and sticking to it…there’s no point in betraying what you really feel on the inside, otherwise you will attract experiences where others will betray you as well).

Are you starting to get the point here? If more love is what you desire, then figure out where in your life you are not loving yourself enough. Do you often criticize yourself and the way you look? Do you feel like you don’t deserve certain things, even though you really want them? Or do you feel like others won’t do certain things for you, even though you would really like them to? Do you beat up on yourself when you make mistakes or not so great decisions? If so, this is exactly what you are training others to do when they interact with you. To turn it all around, learn to be kind to yourself. Learn to do things for yourself that you would like others to do for you (remember, they are watching your movements and ultimately following your lead). Know that you deserve any and every good thing that you can imagine for your life. And perhaps the people that you are interacting with are not the one’s to give you what you really need. Instead, they are a reflection of who you are choosing to be in those moments. So when you finally wise up and learn to value yourself, perhaps those same people will either step their game up in how they treat you, or disappear altogether and make room for people that will honor this new and improved version of you.

This lesson is something kinda special. I’m not saying that its easy to do either, because one of the hardest things to do in life is to unlearn bad habits. But with effort, gentleness, and time, you can become anything that you want to be!

 

Namaste,

 

@BCSTARKS

Amazing Revelations and Chakra Meditation [VIDEO]

Chakra Meditation VideoThere’s not much that I haven’t been dealing with lately, as my life is continuing to unfold. From uncovering my own mental and spiritual blocks to dispelling false beliefs and perceptions that are far from those of the Divine; you name it, I’m facing it. And as scary as this journey can often seem, I am loving every bit of my personal and spiritual growth. I’m a firm believer that God and the Universe allows us to experience certain things in order to awaken us to HIM. Certain events take place in and around us in order for us to become aware of those things which were once hidden from us, and for us to step into our personal power and operate without fear, knowing that we are one with our source and creator, therefore we cannot fail; only expand in HIS wisdom and  LOVE.

Its  amazing how beautiful and loving  some of these revelations have been for me, but they did not present themselves without my enduring lots of pain, confusion, anger, and frustration. As every human being goes through their own processes of evolution, we are all shown time and time again that we are not necessarily the ultimate power in charge. Nonetheless, I can absolutely say that if  I had to do it all again, I wouldn’t take away a thing because its made me who I am. The experiences that I’ve had throughout my life continue to make me more like the vision that I have for myself; which is to live HIS purpose for my life with grace, gratitude, forgiveness, and love as my true companions.

With that said, I recently stumbled upon lessons on the 7 main Chakra energies of the spiritual body, and the lessons have been amazing! I am still so new to all of it, but I wanted to share this awesome meditation video and soundtrack for tapping into each energy level and unblocking all senses of false selfhood. I ‘ve been using this video for the past week, and I love that the creators of this video (which you can check out here) have gone as far as to include wonderful affirmations throughout the video. They also include the various sound waves and frequencies that correspond to the spirit within the music, awakening each level to its natural state of peace. No wonder music soothes the soul… It’s all in the frequencies of the melodies, and beats. Now, I’m not a guru in this at all, but I do like that way that it calms me and allows me to return to my inner state of peace as I reflect on the calmness that it provides while listening. Check it out and let me know what you think.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

I was inspired by this AMAZING Post: How Will You Start the New Year?

As my readers know, I am a huge fan of author and metaphysical lecturer Louise Hay and all of the wisdom and life lessons that she’s shared throughout her 86 years of life. Most recently, I came across a post featured on her blog YouCanHealYourLife.com which asks a simple question: How will you start the new year? An excerpt from the post goes like this:

The New Year is upon us. We welcome the New Year with love and joy, know that what we give out comes back to us multiplied. As you begin your New Year, ask yourself these simple questions:

What shall I now release from my life?

What or who no longer works for me?

What am I holding on to that holds me back?

What thoughts or beliefs belong to the old me?

How am I being unloving to myself?

What do I believe that really works for me?

Am I ready to let go?

What is going on in my life that is terrific and wonderful?

Where am I being very loving to myself?

What I love most is the affirmation that Louise shares at the end of her post, which goes like this:

I am not limited by statistics, medical opinions, time or authorities.

I am one with the infinite wisdom and capabilities of the Universe itself.

All good is available to me, right here and right now.

All I have to do is to use the power of my thoughts to create that which I desire.

My readers also know that I am HUGE on affirmations as well. But for those of you who don’t know what exactly an affirmation is, here’s the beauty of them.

Affirmations are not quotes. They are statements that are positive in nature, and reflect the birthright of every human being. Affirmations are often the opposite of every negative thing that we as humans think to ourselves as a result of our life experiences. However, they can also become the new thoughts that we train ourselves to think, and ultimately shape the energy that we bring to each day that we are a part of this life. Afterall,  what you believe about life, and the energy and thoughts that you bring to the world is what your life ultimately becomes. But it all starts with yourself. So whatever you do, get to loving you!  Begin to be more conscious of the thoughts that you are AFFIRMING in your own life because it matters.

Love,

@BCSTARKS