Brittnay’s Corner: Sexual Healing: What It Means, Why It Matters

Yes, I’m taking it there! But bear with me because this isn’t your typical religious based  speech on why you should save yourself for marriage, or be guilted  by your past. I’ll leave that part to the folks who handle that best. That’s out of my league. “Nope, not I,”  said the cat.

I do, however,  intend to share with you a lesson that almost knocked my socks off when I read it. And it’s not that I haven’t heard similar teachings, but I’ve never heard it stated in a way that actually sits well with my spirit. A way that doesn’t leave me feeling any awkwardness whatsoever… you know, guilty, anxious or ashamed. Instead, I was filled with feelings of pure love and acceptance, which is what any true word of GOD and the DIVINE should feel  like (Your spirit always KNOWS the source from which it comes…its all in how you feel).

Now to the lesson…

A Course In Miracles (ACIM) teaches us that we are not truly the physical body form that we identify ourselves by. Instead, we should view ourselves as spiritual beings having a physical/ human experience here on Earth. With that said, we must be able to view ourselves beyond our physical bodies and the physical material world that we live in.

That’s all pretty cool… obvious for some. But let’s take it a step further.

ACIM also tells us the following:

“When you equate yourself with a body[or another person in the same way], you will always experience depression [or anxiety].”

This is true when we are critical with ourselves or others about our weight, or physical attractiveness, material wealth/success, etc… It’s never a good feeling when we only fully identify ourselves as our physical bodies or material wealth because these are things that can and will constantly change, just as everything else in the physical realm. And let’s face it, we’re all worth wayyy more than what’s on the surface. In fact, we can all agree the only true constants are Spirit, LOVE and GOD… which are all ONE.

Stay with me here…

According to one of my favorite authors, Marianne Williamson in her bestselling title A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course In Miracles, “One of the ways the body can be used to manufacture depression is through loveless sex.” This is because we tend to project either love or fear when we partake in sexual activities. Williamson states:

“When sex is of the Holy Spirit, it is a deepening of communication. When it is of the ego, it is  a substitute for communication. The Holy Spirit uses sex to heal us; the ego uses it to wound us. Sometimes we have thought that sex with another person would cement the bond between us, and instead it turned out to manufacture more illusion and anxiety than there was before. It is only when sex is a vehicle of spiritual communion that it is truly loving, that it joins us to another person. Then it is a sacred act.– Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

In other words, when we partake in loveless sex, we are merely trying to fill a void for something else that we may feel is missing. In this context, sex is used as a coping mechanism that is no different from drugs, or food, or whatever else we humans have been known to use in order to cover up or communicate the true pain that may have never been healed from our past. For example, when a male/female has sex outside of an a loving relationship that has been established prior to sexual interaction, deep down he/she may subconsciously be attempting to communicate or fill a void of their true desire to be loved, wanted, or accepted as whole by another. Sex would thus be a substitution for true communication between that person, and his/her partner(s). There is always a story behind everything in life, whether deep or shallow. This is why communication on the surface goes a looooong way!

Ohhhh, but it gets better!!

Williamson goes on to share another part of this lesson that ACIM teaches, and that is one of the true definitions of what it means to be Holy as it relates to life, and in this context, sex:

“Holiness means the presence of a loving purpose, and in that sense, the body and its accouterments can be a holy expression. Many spiritual seekers have felt the need to eschew all body related things. But that can be as ego-centered as an overattachment to the physical. Anything used to spread joy and communicate love is a part of GOD’s plan for salvation.” — Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

Now tell me that doesn’t give you a whole new perspective on Marvin Gaye’s Sexual Healing!

No matter how man tries to bog it down with condemnation and ridicule, sex was created by the DIVINE as a form of communication on the deepest level… Yes, for us humans it gets no better than pure physical intimacy. But it’s only when its used for the pure purpose of LOVE, that it feels HEAVENLY through and through; not just for the moment. Hence why most religions point in the direction of marriage before sex, and the whole spiel on how man unites as one during meaningful intercourse. The truth is, all sex is meaningful. We just have to know ourselves well enough to know just what we are truly attempting to communicate to the Universe and our partner(s) in spirit.  For we will only experience the truth of our intentions. Therefore, perhaps we should heavily consider having only loving connections… at least at some point in our lives.

If love is what we truly desire, then love is what we ought to communicate with those we interact with in life in as many ways possible. First, we must love and accept ourselves as whole and complete beings right where we are. For in GOD’s eyes, man was perfectly and masterfully created. Once there, if others can accept the whole of you and love you as you are in return, then perhaps they are worthy of your sexual healing, and vice versa of course. DOPE, right!?!

Don’t ever say that I never tried to enlightened you! lol

Meanwhile, feel free to drop some of your thoughts on the topic in the comment section below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Here’s Why Every Relationship We Ever Have Is SO Important!

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My hope is that I’ve captured this photo large enough for you to read the script on the page. I read this lesson on the importance of relationships last night in my latest favorite book, “A Return to Love” by Merrianne Williamson and it knocked my socks off! Talk about a gut check…

Its always so easy to play victim or to feel like life is happening to us that we tend to forget that when it comes to interactions, it takes two. The energy that you put out, is the very thing that you will get in any interaction. I love this passage b/c it reminds us to focus on love instead of fear, because its the only thing that truly exists; everything else is just an illusion to distract us from the face, goodness, and mercy of God. And those are the things that seperate us from our “Christ-like” ways. A Course In Miracles teaches us that we, like Jesus, were created in God’s likeness (even our thoughts mirror His when we focus on love). The only difference is that we learned to be fearful, which takes on so many negative expressions in life that we often choose wrong. To “sin” merely means to “miss the mark” or to “choose fear over love” and nothing more. In any instance we can choose to be a force of Love or a force of fear. God does not punish us for choosing wrong; for when we choose fear, we are choosing to be in pain. When we choose Love, we choose to heal and be of God’s light. God is not a punishing God despite the teachings of some religions! Instead, he’s always there waiting for us to realize how much he Loves us, and how much he needs us to love ourselves and each other in order to do his will. Thank God for His mercy on us that everyday that we awaken, we have the ability to choose again… we have the chance to choose Love and have evidence of it show up in the form of our relationships and our overall lives on Earth. Amen!

Love this book people! Go get it already and be blessed!,

@BCSTARKS

BCSTARKS Checking In…

Sooo….

I’ve not been inspired to write as much as I have been to read these past few weeks. Not that there hasn’t been exciting things to take place for me… Like my very first official New York Fashion week, during which I had the opportunity to go backstage for some of the most amazing shows (Lela Rose and Carmen Marc Valvo to name a few). Not to mention that I stood alongside some of the most talented people in the beauty industry (Ted Gibson of What Not To Wear). Yeah, lots of exciting things have taken place in the past several weeks, yet I find myself at a crossroad. What happens when the inspirer needs inspiration?

In my case, she doesn’t write that’s for sure. Lol But I will share with you a book that I’ve been reading in the meantime and I LOVE IT!!! Marianne Williamson’s ‘A Return to Love” is by far an amazing read and one that I would absolutely share with my readers. It’s definitely thought-provoking and will transform the way you see the world if you choose to be open to Williamson’s interpretation of life, spirit, and the DIVINE. The book is based on A Course In Miracles, which is a spiritual tool based on the Bible that many consider an amazing Bible companion.

Go get it and read it! I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Meanwhile, I promise to have better content in my next post. I just wanted to at least update my readers on my current state since I haven’t written in a while.

Love,

@BCSTARKS