How a shift in your beliefs could change the world

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America,

A lot of what we are living today is based on the very things that we inherited from our ancestors. And if we’re going to be honest about it, not all of that is something to be proud of.

Some of it has caused tremendous pain and trauma in the world, much of which has been passed on for generations. Some of it has caused tremendous fear and anxiety, which has done the same.

But at some point along our journey, we must come to recognize that evolving times call for evolved minds, emotions, and ways of being.

When your thoughts no longer serve your current condition or circumstances, you must be willing to replace them with new thoughts that will better serve you.

This brings me to the topic of shifting beliefs…

One of my favorite teachers on this subject would have to be Abraham and Esther Hicks. If you’ve never heard of them, I’d advise you to get started here. 

I’ve been a student of theirs for nearly 5 years now, and I must say that their teachings are life changing. One of the points that their teachings consistently drive home is this:

A belief is only a thought you keep thinking until you believe it’s true…

The biggest problem with this is that most people focus on the problem more than they do the solution. To add to this principle on beliefs, whatever you focus on most in life, will grow, and you will start to see more and more evidence of it all around you.

Imagine that… It’s no coincidence that the person who chooses to focus on love, prosperity, and abundance are those who get to experience those things in their daily lives.

On the contrary, those who dwell in negativity, hopelessness, and lack (or a ‘not enough’ mentality) are those who live the misery of it all. Here’s why, according to Abraham:

The realization that something is not as you want it to be is an important first step, but once you have identified that, the faster you are able to turn your attention in the direction of a solution, the better, because a continuing exploration of the problem will prevent you from finding the solution. The problem is a different vibrational frequency than the solution—and all thoughts (or vibrations) are affected by (or managed by) the Law of Attraction.
Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction — 3/31/09

So how do we ensure that we are evolving in a way that will bring us closer to a more unified, healthy, and loving world?

Well, when we become aware of our own thoughts, we have to be honest about what comes up. If you find that your thinking is predominantly everything that you don’t wish to experience, then you must be willing to shift beyond those beliefs because they contribute to the whole.

With the surge of technology and platforms like YouTube, we are quickly becoming the spiritually awakened generation who understands the fundamentals of change better than any generation that ever lived.

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It is up to each of us to keep ourselves educated on the principles and ideas that will move humanity forward. More importantly, we must be the demonstration of what we learn, because faith without action is useless.

When we are willing to change ourselves (individually) for the better, we help change our world collectively.

I’ll leave you with this brief lesson by Abraham of how we can take charge of our own beliefs (video below).

Watch and comment, I want to know what you think.

Love,

Brittnay

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Brittnay’s Corner: Sexual Healing: What It Means, Why It Matters

Yes, I’m taking it there! But bear with me because this isn’t your typical religious based  speech on why you should save yourself for marriage, or be guilted  by your past. I’ll leave that part to the folks who handle that best. That’s out of my league. “Nope, not I,”  said the cat.

I do, however,  intend to share with you a lesson that almost knocked my socks off when I read it. And it’s not that I haven’t heard similar teachings, but I’ve never heard it stated in a way that actually sits well with my spirit. A way that doesn’t leave me feeling any awkwardness whatsoever… you know, guilty, anxious or ashamed. Instead, I was filled with feelings of pure love and acceptance, which is what any true word of GOD and the DIVINE should feel  like (Your spirit always KNOWS the source from which it comes…its all in how you feel).

Now to the lesson…

A Course In Miracles (ACIM) teaches us that we are not truly the physical body form that we identify ourselves by. Instead, we should view ourselves as spiritual beings having a physical/ human experience here on Earth. With that said, we must be able to view ourselves beyond our physical bodies and the physical material world that we live in.

That’s all pretty cool… obvious for some. But let’s take it a step further.

ACIM also tells us the following:

“When you equate yourself with a body[or another person in the same way], you will always experience depression [or anxiety].”

This is true when we are critical with ourselves or others about our weight, or physical attractiveness, material wealth/success, etc… It’s never a good feeling when we only fully identify ourselves as our physical bodies or material wealth because these are things that can and will constantly change, just as everything else in the physical realm. And let’s face it, we’re all worth wayyy more than what’s on the surface. In fact, we can all agree the only true constants are Spirit, LOVE and GOD… which are all ONE.

Stay with me here…

According to one of my favorite authors, Marianne Williamson in her bestselling title A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course In Miracles, “One of the ways the body can be used to manufacture depression is through loveless sex.” This is because we tend to project either love or fear when we partake in sexual activities. Williamson states:

“When sex is of the Holy Spirit, it is a deepening of communication. When it is of the ego, it is  a substitute for communication. The Holy Spirit uses sex to heal us; the ego uses it to wound us. Sometimes we have thought that sex with another person would cement the bond between us, and instead it turned out to manufacture more illusion and anxiety than there was before. It is only when sex is a vehicle of spiritual communion that it is truly loving, that it joins us to another person. Then it is a sacred act.– Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

In other words, when we partake in loveless sex, we are merely trying to fill a void for something else that we may feel is missing. In this context, sex is used as a coping mechanism that is no different from drugs, or food, or whatever else we humans have been known to use in order to cover up or communicate the true pain that may have never been healed from our past. For example, when a male/female has sex outside of an a loving relationship that has been established prior to sexual interaction, deep down he/she may subconsciously be attempting to communicate or fill a void of their true desire to be loved, wanted, or accepted as whole by another. Sex would thus be a substitution for true communication between that person, and his/her partner(s). There is always a story behind everything in life, whether deep or shallow. This is why communication on the surface goes a looooong way!

Ohhhh, but it gets better!!

Williamson goes on to share another part of this lesson that ACIM teaches, and that is one of the true definitions of what it means to be Holy as it relates to life, and in this context, sex:

“Holiness means the presence of a loving purpose, and in that sense, the body and its accouterments can be a holy expression. Many spiritual seekers have felt the need to eschew all body related things. But that can be as ego-centered as an overattachment to the physical. Anything used to spread joy and communicate love is a part of GOD’s plan for salvation.” — Marianne Williamson, A Return To Love p. 250

Now tell me that doesn’t give you a whole new perspective on Marvin Gaye’s Sexual Healing!

No matter how man tries to bog it down with condemnation and ridicule, sex was created by the DIVINE as a form of communication on the deepest level… Yes, for us humans it gets no better than pure physical intimacy. But it’s only when its used for the pure purpose of LOVE, that it feels HEAVENLY through and through; not just for the moment. Hence why most religions point in the direction of marriage before sex, and the whole spiel on how man unites as one during meaningful intercourse. The truth is, all sex is meaningful. We just have to know ourselves well enough to know just what we are truly attempting to communicate to the Universe and our partner(s) in spirit.  For we will only experience the truth of our intentions. Therefore, perhaps we should heavily consider having only loving connections… at least at some point in our lives.

If love is what we truly desire, then love is what we ought to communicate with those we interact with in life in as many ways possible. First, we must love and accept ourselves as whole and complete beings right where we are. For in GOD’s eyes, man was perfectly and masterfully created. Once there, if others can accept the whole of you and love you as you are in return, then perhaps they are worthy of your sexual healing, and vice versa of course. DOPE, right!?!

Don’t ever say that I never tried to enlightened you! lol

Meanwhile, feel free to drop some of your thoughts on the topic in the comment section below.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

True Soulmates and Expectations

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Hey there lovies!! I’ve pretty much spent the past week and a half on an adventure. That’s right, I’m doing what I call “gettin’ me some life”. And its been ahhhmazing so far. The the thing I love most about travel and quiet time is that you learn so much about yourself and it gives you time to reflect on whats really important. Which brings me to the topic of relationships…

A few weeks ago I came across the image above on Instagram and I could sooo relate. I’m such a firm believer in relationships shaping and molding us into who we are supposed to be. That is, if we can avoid becoming resentful and bitter by looking beyond the surface of things and finding the lessons instead.

A Course In Miracles presents the idea (also described by author Marianne Willamson in “A Return To Love”) that soulmates are merely a spiritual assignment given to us by God to face the parts of ourselves that we would often ignore otherwise. And contrary to common belief about just who a soulmate could be, ACIM presents the idea that every single relationship that we have in life, whether romantic, platonic, familial, etc… we are all soulmates here in this lifetime interacting with one another for the purpose of somehow advancing mankind towards its original source. LOVE !

Sounds like a bit much to swallow, I know. I thought the same thing.  But as I began to reflect on my life’s journey and started to look back for the beauty of even the most dreadful situations, I realized that they all contributed to the woman I am today. The best version of me yet! And like fine wine, I get better with time… and so do you!

Relationships have taught me that when we are forced to be vulnerable in our interactions and peel back the layers of ourselves that can sometimes be embarrassing and even quite painful to bear, we allow our true transformation to occur. And by embracing that transformation with peace and gratitude, we send signals into the Universe that indicate that we are ready for the next great lesson that will bring us closer to our true selves: the infinite, loving, limitless, all-powerful, and masterfully created spirits that God created us to be.

But when we don’t embrace that transformation; when we are resentful and bitter because things went awry or we refuse to accept our our own or another’s growth and evolution; we find ourselves stuck in a pattern of what seems to be the same relationships replicating themselves through different people and interactions. And we’ve all been there!

The great news is that it doesn’t have to be that way. A mere shift in awareness and the dedication to allow yourself to patient with your  life’s process, as well as respecting the life process of others changes everything. You’ll become so good at this until one day you will realize just how much of a co-creator of relationships you truly are. Then finding the soulmate of your dreams becomes that much more possible.

On that note, check out this phenomenal video by one of my favorite authors Abraham and Esther Hicks on finding a soulmate and the power of expectation. Super inspiring!

Love,

@BCSTARKS

Here’s Why Every Relationship We Ever Have Is SO Important!

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My hope is that I’ve captured this photo large enough for you to read the script on the page. I read this lesson on the importance of relationships last night in my latest favorite book, “A Return to Love” by Merrianne Williamson and it knocked my socks off! Talk about a gut check…

Its always so easy to play victim or to feel like life is happening to us that we tend to forget that when it comes to interactions, it takes two. The energy that you put out, is the very thing that you will get in any interaction. I love this passage b/c it reminds us to focus on love instead of fear, because its the only thing that truly exists; everything else is just an illusion to distract us from the face, goodness, and mercy of God. And those are the things that seperate us from our “Christ-like” ways. A Course In Miracles teaches us that we, like Jesus, were created in God’s likeness (even our thoughts mirror His when we focus on love). The only difference is that we learned to be fearful, which takes on so many negative expressions in life that we often choose wrong. To “sin” merely means to “miss the mark” or to “choose fear over love” and nothing more. In any instance we can choose to be a force of Love or a force of fear. God does not punish us for choosing wrong; for when we choose fear, we are choosing to be in pain. When we choose Love, we choose to heal and be of God’s light. God is not a punishing God despite the teachings of some religions! Instead, he’s always there waiting for us to realize how much he Loves us, and how much he needs us to love ourselves and each other in order to do his will. Thank God for His mercy on us that everyday that we awaken, we have the ability to choose again… we have the chance to choose Love and have evidence of it show up in the form of our relationships and our overall lives on Earth. Amen!

Love this book people! Go get it already and be blessed!,

@BCSTARKS

BCSTARKS Checking In…

Sooo….

I’ve not been inspired to write as much as I have been to read these past few weeks. Not that there hasn’t been exciting things to take place for me… Like my very first official New York Fashion week, during which I had the opportunity to go backstage for some of the most amazing shows (Lela Rose and Carmen Marc Valvo to name a few). Not to mention that I stood alongside some of the most talented people in the beauty industry (Ted Gibson of What Not To Wear). Yeah, lots of exciting things have taken place in the past several weeks, yet I find myself at a crossroad. What happens when the inspirer needs inspiration?

In my case, she doesn’t write that’s for sure. Lol But I will share with you a book that I’ve been reading in the meantime and I LOVE IT!!! Marianne Williamson’s ‘A Return to Love” is by far an amazing read and one that I would absolutely share with my readers. It’s definitely thought-provoking and will transform the way you see the world if you choose to be open to Williamson’s interpretation of life, spirit, and the DIVINE. The book is based on A Course In Miracles, which is a spiritual tool based on the Bible that many consider an amazing Bible companion.

Go get it and read it! I promise you won’t be disappointed.

Meanwhile, I promise to have better content in my next post. I just wanted to at least update my readers on my current state since I haven’t written in a while.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

 

My Great Big “Aha!” Thanks to @MastinKipp

Last week I read a post on one of my favorite blogs, The Daily Love by Mastin Kipp that touched on one of the life lessons that I’ve been working through lately. This lesson involves learning to accept one’s self as being perfectly imperfect.

We all have our own unique idea of perfection, and yet sadly enough, it is often something that none of us can ever really achieve. As a result of us constantly falling short of the mark of perfection, we often feel inadequate, unworthy, ashamed and ultimately fearful that we are not enough.

Our ideas of perfection are based on what we see in the lives of others. We compare our lives with those that we feel have
what we lack, thus making ourselves somehow insufficient.

Often times we find ourselves engaged in relationships, both personal and professional, that reflect how we value ourselves. In fact, all relationships are a reflection of how we value ourselves. And anything that we can look at and admire in another is merely a reflection of our own true potential… which brings me to the topic of my own revelation.

According to A Course in Miracles, a revelation “refelcts the original form of communication between God and His creations, involving the extremely personal sense of creation sometimes sought in physical relationships… Revelation unites you directly to God.”

In other words, when we experience a revelation it feels so empowering because what is revealed is actually what God has intended life to be like for us. Although I’ve heard it time and time before, my revelation was that God intended for us to know that we are created perfectly imperfect and in his likeness.

However, throughout our lives we often forget this very important truth, and so we seek validation or our sense of worth through relationships with others (personal and professional). We sometimes think that in associating with certain people, places, job titles, or things our value somehow increases or diminishes, when in fact the truth is that we are each individually perfect just as God made us; right where we are in our lives, no matter where we are in our lives. Nothing or no one can define our worth for us, we must know it for ourselves based on God’s truths. We were created in His likeness, and therefore are perfect because we are of Him.

So much for feeling unworthy of anything, for you are worthy of EVERYTHING so long as you BELIEVE. This was such a beautiful revelation for me because I never realized how deep my own feelings of unworthiness had affected my own life experiences and past relationships. But since my revelation, life has opened up to me in so many ways because I can now act from that place of KNOWING who and what I truly am, and where my true strength comes from… nowhere outside of me!

I’m learning to release myself from the addiction known as fear by standing in my truths and walking by faith. My hope is the same for you.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

How thoughts can make you sick: Are you willing to forgive?

Are You Willing to Forgive?

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BLOG by LOUISE L. HAY

Whenever we are ill, we need to search our hearts to see what we need to forgive.

A Course in Miracles says that “All disease comes from a state of unforgiveness,” and that “whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive.”

I would add to that concept that the very person you find it hardest to forgive is the one you need to let go of the most. Forgiveness means giving up, letting go. It has nothing to do with condoning behavior. It’s just letting the whole thing go. We do not have to know how to forgive. All we need to do is be willing to forgive. The Universe will take care of the rest.

Let’s affirm: Love heals me. I center my thoughts on love and forgiveness, for myself and others.

[This blog post is an exact copy from an original post by metaphysical teacher Louise L. Hay on healyourlife.com and is in no way being portrayed as an original publication of BCSTARKS]