How to get over regret

As you know, I love to share with my readers the very things that inspire me to be my best self. I came across this really good video featuring life coach Christine Hassler discussing some helpful ways to let go of the ugly emotion known as regret. Its something that many people encounter here and there over the course of a lifetime, but Hasslers tells why it doesn’t have to be this way.

Check out the video below. Also, check out the accompanying article by Hassler on The Daily Love.

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My New Inspiration: Josie Natori, Founder of NATORI Fashion Empire (Spring 2012 Josie Photo Shoot)

A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of meeting fashion extraordinaire, and true dream maker, Josie Natori at a luncheon hosted by The Commonwealth Institute, a support organization dedicated to women CEO’s, entrepreneurs, and senior corporate executives. I had been invited last-minute by a mentor and colleague from the University of Miami’s Launch Pad center for student and alumni entrepreneurs, Susan Amat. Thanks to Susan, I am forever a fan of Mrs. Natori’s amazing story and journey of becoming the successful business mogul and inspiring woman that she is today.

As the keynote speaker for the event, Mrs. Natori shared her story of growing up in the Philippines and being surrounded by female entrepreneurs. Figures such as aunts and cousins, and even her own mother selling things in the local market painted a picture of independence. It also helped that Josie was taught at a very early age by her grandfather, “don’t ever depend on a man.”

These seeds led her to persue an education in America, and later to become the first female president of investment banking firm, Merryll Lynch. After working on Wall Street for several years, and with no experience in fashion whatsoever, she began selling uniquely designed night gowns from her home country to department stores that would eventually become the 35-year old fashion empire known as NATORI. This family owned and operated brand represents all things free spirited,   fierce, and fabulous!! And NATORI is coming to a Target store near you this season!!!

I was so inspired by Mrs. Natori’s story that I politely walked up to her as she was leaving the stage to introduce myself. I told her how much I admired her work, and how inspired I was to hear her story. I was also bold enough to ask her if she would be a mentor to me, and she gracefully replied, “But dear, I’m all the way in New York!” Of course that isn’t an  issue for me, and so I replied,”That’s fine, we can make it work long distance.”

Optimistic I suppose, but I’m a believer of speaking and going after the things you want even when they seem impossible.

I’m looking forward to this. Meanwhile, check out the photos from her beautiful Spring 2012 collection below (Images courtesy of Josie Girl blog- posted by Josie’s daughter in law).

UPDATE!!!!!:

After completing this post, it dawned on me that approximately 6 months ago I was inspired to design my PR portfolio after coming across a beautifully designed bedding set. The story is that I was searching for a new comforter set to redesign my room. I wanted lots of color that made me feel warm and in touch with life. I saw this the following bed set and fell in love with it!!!

But it was much too expensive for a college student such as myself. So because I could not afford it, I loved it so much that I used the colors from it to inspire how I present my professional work.

The irony was that I had no idea who or what NATORI was, yet it was the name that was plastered on the tag of this bed set. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, and I end up meeting the same person who inspired me months ago… and I had NO CLUE! Nothing in life happens by coincidence… Im convinced. Thank you NATORI!

See original Spring 2012 Josie Photo Shoot post here.

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My Unexpected Degree In Psychology ( I Didn’t Do It On Purpose!)

When I signed up to get a Master’s Degree in Public Relations, I was signing up to do what I had always done ever since I was a little girl… Try to gain understanding so that I could create understanding among many. I didn’t realize that life was leading me towards my purpose until a couple of days ago…

It’s funny how nothing in life is ever coincidental. It all means something in the grander scheme of things. And it all has to happen the way that it does, to get you where you need to be. No matter how good or bad things seem in the moment.

I recently wrote a post on my Public Relations blog that reflected on the nature of public relations being closely tied to the field of psychology. I never would have thought that what I do, and what I’m striving to become, would mean so much to this world… because regardless of the scenario, at our core, all human beings want to be understood and to know that they matter.

Who would have thought that GOD would use me in this way. I now get that my life is being used for a purpose greater than myself. Yes, even when the issues that I  deal with seem all too personal, they are merely reminders that my lessons are not just my own. They are life lessons to be understood by me, and then shared with many others so that they too can understand themselves and other people.

I’m thankful for this revelation… But, I also know that I make a better PR professional than I would a psychologist. There’s still so much to learn.

Love,

@BCSTARKS a.k.a. The Dream Maker

Fashion Inspiration: Vogue’s “Five Days, Five Looks, One Girl” Series

As you know, I LOVEEEEE all things fashion/beauty related. These images inspire me in all sorts of ways. I love expressing my individuality through the way I dress and carry myself. These are just some looks that I would definitely ROCK!

All Images courtesy of VOGUE.com

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The Crippling Disease Know As FEAR: Has It Gotten In The Way?

I write this post  from the deepest place of empathy and compassion, with hopes that at least one person who reads this will become so self-aware that they no longer allow this horrific disease to ruin their life.

Yes, FEAR has long been known to be the most destructive enemy of mankind, and it has caused more heartache and physical harm than any other known disease.

How so? Or better yet, why? Because fear is the most silent and unsuspecting state of thought. It causes all kinds of discomfort in the mind and the body. Think about it… when you are scared, all kinds of thoughts run through your head; mostly negative. Your heart races, or you feel anxious at times. Sometimes people have panic attacks, while others just simply shy away from life, or avoid what it means to truly live.

Fear can stop the most ambitious person dead in his/her tracks and cause them to give up on their dreams… Why? Because they may be “afraid” that they don’t know how to do something, or they become too scared to try something new because they don’t know how things will turn out. Some are just too “fragile” to be vulnerable because they fear “failure”… Yes, as if getting an F on your mid-term or breaking up with your ex who means you no good equates to the idea that the world is ending.

What ever happened to studying harder to do better next time, or practicing something so much that you become a master at it, or learning from your past mistakes so that you do better the next time. So what if the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th times were a complete flop? Pick up the pieces and try, try, try until something works! Yes, even if it takes a lifetime (none of us really knows what’s in a lifetime until we’ve lived and died anyway).

“You Can Rise From The Ashes of Your Life”-Oprah

So many times we worry ourselves sick and become prisoners of our own minds, often feeling as if we have lost control. But the truth is, the only thing we have true dominion over is our own thoughts. We can decide whether we will allow negative thoughts to consume us in a way that keeps us in bondage and from living our best life. Yes, that is the one true god-like power that GOD gave man; the power of thought (and within this, the power and right to “choose”).

It is my wish that each person reading this will become more open to change. My prayer is that you (the reader) will see change as a great indicator that you are the all-powerful being that GOD intended for you to be. And that you excercise this power by choosing to rely on a greater power beyond mankind and yourself. When you trust that a “set back” is just a “set up” for you to be greater than before, for you to aim higher than you ever have, go further than you’ve ever gone, dream bigger than you’ve ever dreamed, and don’t stop at the 1st few attempts, or the first few “NO’s”… You can rid yourself of the indicating symptoms of FEAR before you fall severely ill, only to become completely consumed by it. It will steal your joy, your health, your wealth, and your life, only if you let it!

Be courageous and trust that if no one else supports you, at least YOU and GOD/the Universe will always support YOU.

As a lover of Hip-Hop for all the right reasons, I came across this video interview of rapper 50 Cent and the BBC. In this video 50 discusses his recently published book where he talks about how overcoming fear can be helpful and harmful in business. Of course the lessons in the video, as well as this post is about life as a whole, not just business. Check it out and let me know what lessons you’ve drawn from both, in terms of your own struggles.

Lessons Learned: Oprah’s Life Class Reflections (When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them The 1st Time!)

As many of my readers know, I am a huge fan of Oprah and all the good that she represents to the world through her shared life lessons. Her most recent venture on her OWN network, Oprah’s Life Class, has had the most profound lessons  wrapped up from her 25 years of the Oprah Winfrey Show.

The following video clips are excerpts from this season’s Life Classes, which premiered on weekdays at 8pm and midnight on OWN (Check local listings or visit oprah.com for webcasts of the show), and I want to share some of the relationship lessons that I have learned from them with my readers. Check them out and feel free to drop a line. I want to know if this touches home with you like it did for me when I first saw them.