No failures or mistakes, just lessons

Hey tribe!

This week’s theme has been all about overcoming the idea or failure and mistakes and seeing life as a series of lessons.

If you are on Daily Fab + Inspo list, then you’ve been reading my breakdown on why I don’t believe in failure or mistakes. If not, I’ll get you all caught up in a snapshot, but you should definitely sign up because the transformation is all in the details.

Failure isn’t real.

For starters, I believe that sometimes we use failure as an excuse to quit and give up on yourself.

Just because you don’t get the outcome that you want, doesn’t mean you won’t ever succeed.

Some of the most famous names in history would never be known today had they given up on themselves at the first sign of defeat.

Michael Jordan, Thomas Edison, the Wright brothers… Beyoncé for goodness sake!

Each of these people, and countless others, never labeled themselves as failures because they didn’t get it right the first time.

Instead, they let those temporary moments of defeat fuel them to keep going, keep working, keep practicing to hone their craft. And every day that would go by, they were getting better and better with time.

Today, we know these people as some of the greatest of all time. But by no means are they super human. They just chose to see experiences differently. They chose to see them as opportunities to be better.

Mistakes are there to help you grow.

You know the saying, “Nobody’s perfect,” or “Everybody makes mistakes?” Well it’s true and that’s what makes life awesome!

If we didn’t make mistakes, we wouldn’t know what we need to do to improve ourselves. Mistakes are also opportunities to do and be better.

We get to use the things that we didn’t get right, and make better choices moving forward. Choosing a different thought and corresponding action is what will render a different outcome than the one before.

And as the late/great Maya Angelou once said:

When you know better, you do better. – Maya Angelou

You can let yourself off the hook now. 🙂

A delay is not a denial.

This quote pretty much speaks for itself.

Oftentimes the very thing that makes us label ourselves “failures” or see mistakes as anything other than lessons is the whole idea of a time delay.

 

A delay is often the very thing that is needed to prepare you for the life of your dreams. If your dream life would come any sooner than it should, you probably wouldn’t enjoy it because you wouldn’t feel prepared to handle it.

Hence the reason why people who win the lottery often lose it all in a short period of time. Or the reason why people who experience overnight fame, often fall into depression.

The moral of the story is this:

Use the experiences of your life as a tool to learn and grow from. They are there to teach you something, to allow you to become more, to do more, and to achieve more. And if you use your time wisely, you could become the very person that it will take, not only to get the life you want, but to keep it.

Love,

Brittnay

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What you resist, persists: Why fighting against what you do not want only draws more in

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Have you ever had an experience where something that you did not want to happen, happened? … I know, DUH! But hear me out…

Do you remember what you were thinking or saying to yourself before it did? Although this isn’t the case for every experience, in that particular instance did  your self-talk go something like this?:

“I know that _________ is going to happen, I just know it’s going to… watch. It will, I just know it.”

And then, BAM! It happens…

If you can relate, let me just say that you are not alone.

So many us subconsciously sabotage our own goodness by focusing on the things we don’t want or like about our life experiences. But if you know a thing or two about the Law of Attraction, then you know that it does not discriminate against the things that you focus on.

This means that even when you are focused on something that you do not wish to happen, you can subconsciously be drawing it into your experience. Yes, YOU could be attracting the very things that you resist. And what you resist, persist.

This means that pushing against something that you do not like, isn’t what’s going to make it go away. In fact, that only amplies more of what you don’t want.

If you focus upon whatever you want, you will attract whatever you want. If you focus upon the lack of what you want, you will attract more of the lack.- Abraham Hicks

The Law of Attraction also works in the same way as the law of gravity and motion combined.

Example: When you push up against something that you do not want with intense energy, it pushes back at you with the same force. Or if you toss something up in the air with strong force, it will build that same momentum as it comes back down.

Likewise, Law of Attraction says that what you focus your attention on most, you get back in the form of more experiences that will match that same frequency or feeling.

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According to Abraham & Esther Hicks, world-renowned teachers of Law of Attraction, the way that you feel is a HUGE DEAL! Your feelings matter because they serve as your internal compass, letting you know what your point of attraction is in any given moment.

When you feel bad, you are emitting a particular energy that can only come back to you in the same way that it left; leaving you with more things to feel bad about. When you feel good, the same thing happens. That good feeling energy is returned to you, just as you sent it out into the world, bringing in more things to feel good about.

But the beauty of it all is that you can always shift your point of attraction by finding something that makes you feel better to focus on.

Think about your loving pet, or your #WCW or #MCM… how does that make you feel? Good, right?

Well, whatever it takes, do it often! Because when you are looking to make positive changes, there is no way to do that if your attention is stuck on how bad things are.

If you are part of my email list, then you know how much I sing the praises of author and founder of Hay House Publishing, Louise Hay for her positive contributions to the world of metaphysics and spirituality.

And if you are familiar with the term “positive affirmations,”then you probably know it because of her and the popularity that her 1980’s Bestseller You Can Heal Your Life.

This book marked the beginning of my life being changed, and if this is your first time hearing of it, I’m sure it will do the same for you.

Check out this video of the movie You Can Heal Your Life, which is based on the book.

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Love,

Brittnay

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Beauty Inspiration: Here’s why Celebrity MUA BeatFaceHoney would slay ratings on OWN *VIDEO Pilot*


For starters, I was inspired to write this post because I am continuously inspired by this woman.

For those of you that are not familiar with this gorgeous face, allow me to introduce you to celebrity makeup artist and educator…THE ONE AND ONLY…Tatiana Ward, better known as BeatFaceHoney! Take a look below:

BeatFaceHoney and Supermodel Jessica White
BeatFaceHoney and Celebrity MUA friends
BeatFaceHoney and Celebrity Hairstylist Oscar James
BeatFaceHoney and Karen Civil
BeatFaceHoney and singer Andra Day
BeatFaceHoney and singer Sevyn Streeter
BeatFaceHoney and singer Keyshia Cole
Notice my excitement…!!!!

If you’ve been following my blog for a while, then you know that I love all things beauty and fashion… and of Divine Spirit of course!

At one point, I even had a section on this blog titled Beauty Inspiration.

Well, let’s just say that I’m bringing this title out of retirement to give a major shout out to this amazingly talented and driven woman.

I first learned about BeatFaceHoney around 2011. At the time, I had just started this blog, and I was constantly searching for content that inspired me. I must have gone to YouTube to find inspiration of some sort, when I stumbled upon the channel of BeatFaceHoney.


Let’s just say that I’ve been hooked ever since.

What I remember most about discovering her videos, was that she was a girl who had a love for beauty and teaching, just like me, and all she wanted to do was share what she knew with whoever could benefit from it.

Even then, while sitting at her bedside in her parents’ basement with a ton of makeup at hand, an occasional curling iron, and whatever recording device she used to capture it all, she was an awesome educator. She was well spoken and graceful, passionate, fun to watch, super talented, and completely transparent with anything that viewers would want to know about her craft. BFH was and is the REAL DEAL!

I mean… She taught me how to put on eyeshadow, apply my foundation flawlessly, and fill in my brows for goodness sake!

And if anyone wanted to become a makeup artist, through her timeless videos, she teaches viewers how to get started and what to expect, recommends products, and shows how to mix and match foundation tones for brown girls. She even shares parts of her personal journey. It’s the kind of education that people pay lots of money for these days. And she did it out of a pure desire to share, long before it became the “it” thing to do on YouTube.

I write so passionately about her (and no, I’ve never met her… nor does she know anything about this) because she’s been so inspiring to me from day one. She has helped so many of her fans get on the path to living their dreams, all because she was bold enough to pursue a path uncharted, and create a lane of her own.

As a follower, what captured me most, was the power of what she’s nicknamed her BeatFaceBrigade (her following). I was not only a witness to her rise to fame, but I also participated in sending out a series of tweets, along with fellow BFBs that got the attention of Nicki Minaj when she posted that she was looking for a makeup artist in New York.

We were all over it, tweeting that Nicki should choose BeatFaceHoney for the job. It was that collective action that helped her go from in front of the camera on YouTube, to doing makeup for Nicki Minaj and Brandy, followed by many others… all with a few collective tweets from thousands of followers.

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BeatFaceHoney on one of many sets with Nicki Minaj
It felt so good to see her win, and I’d love to see her go even further.

Why OWN TV?

I tagged Oprah Winfrey Network in the title of this post because I am a huge fan of the network. In fact, I was an early adopter that was often retweeted by the network on Twitter in its early days because I wanted the world to know about shows like Life Class and Master Class (I even wrote about my Twitter experience. Check it out here.).


They were, and still are, life changing television programs.

I grew up the daughter of a hairstylist, and in my mother’s hair salon, the only time she allowed the television on during the day was to watch The Oprah Winfrey Show. My mother was not about promoting anything but positivity, hence the reason why I am the way I am.

Recently, BeatFaceHoney shared in an Instagram post that she recorded a pilot for a show that she dreams of having on OWN. 

After watching it and reflecting on the impact that she’s already had on my life, I was deeply moved to find a way to be another voice to echo this vision of hers.

BeatFaceHoney represents ambition and hard work, positivity and passion, tenacity and perseverance, and so much more. She would be an amazing asset to draw in an audience that is obsessed with beauty; only, she has much more to offer than vanity.

Did I mention that she’s also a recording artist? Yes, I said it. She’s a singer who once auditioned on American Idol. And she happened to write every makeup artist’s slay anthem, Slay To The Gawds.

While she’s at it, she could probably be a motivational speaker as well.

I would absolutely LOVE to watch a reality show for and by girls like me, who are not here for the drama. And I would LOVE to watch it on my favorite network! With more than 10 million views on YouTube and over 400K followers on Instagram, I know that I’m not the only one who’d tune in to watch her show.

If you are a reading this as a fan and follower of BeatFaceHoney, I want you to share this post on social media. That means retweet, repost, and share so that we can get our girl on TV, and on just the right network!

If this is all new to you, get to know BeatfaceHoney on YouTube, and feel free to scroll back as far as 6 years ago (The woman has BEEN WERKIN’!). I promise you’ll see what I mean. Then come back here and share, share, SHARE.

Here’s the pilot for the show that she and her team (and me!) hope will one day have a home at OWN:

My fingers are crossed, and I know that she’s leaving it up to God and the Universe.  We’ve seen it happen on her behalf before through the power of social media. Let’s see what we can collectively help manifest this time around.

Love,

@BCSTARKS

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Why your journey is not just your own

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What if this life you are living is playing out in order for something greater to come out of it?

What if even the most horrible thing that could have happened to you, did not happen in vain?

I know, I know… Hear  me out.

What if, the very idea that you survived and came out on the other side is what someone else needs to know to keep them from jumping off the deep end?

What if another life depends on your lessons, healing and growth?

What if I told you that you owe it to yourself and the world to learn, heal, and grow from those experiences?

What if all of this were true?

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This statement could not be more true!

In fact, this was the very idea that kept me from being a college drop-out. Not that I have anything against dropping out of school, I get that it’s not for everyone.

In my family, I was the first person to graduate college. While I was in school, I remember wanting to quit so many times because I just didn’t feel like it was where I belonged.

But then I would have a conversation with my little brother, or a younger cousin who was planning their future, and we would discuss things about school. They were so excited about the school I attended at the time (University of Miami) and they would light up with pride in what I was doing. I even had relatives asking for advice on how to enroll in some kind of educational program because they wanted to give themselves more options.

That spoke volumes to me.

That’s when I knew that even something as simple as my choice to go to college had a bigger impact on others then I realized. That’s when I knew that my journey was not just my own. And while I might have been the first college graduate in my family, I am definitely not the last.

We are all teachers of our own experience. Sometimes the things we go through are for us to learn the lessons and then go and teach another so that one less person has to suffer in order to grow. Never think that what you experience is in vain. Your growth matters. You matter. And there’s always a bigger picture.

“Other people are going to find healing in your wounds. Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts.” – Rick Warren

If you could think of one thing along your journey that you’ve experienced for a purpose greater than you, what would it be? What was the lesson that you learned? How did your lesson or experience help others?

I want to know your story. Comment below or shoot me an email at brittnay@bcstarkspr.com.

Love,

Brittnay

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How a shift in your beliefs could change the world

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America,

A lot of what we are living today is based on the very things that we inherited from our ancestors. And if we’re going to be honest about it, not all of that is something to be proud of.

Some of it has caused tremendous pain and trauma in the world, much of which has been passed on for generations. Some of it has caused tremendous fear and anxiety, which has done the same.

But at some point along our journey, we must come to recognize that evolving times call for evolved minds, emotions, and ways of being.

When your thoughts no longer serve your current condition or circumstances, you must be willing to replace them with new thoughts that will better serve you.

This brings me to the topic of shifting beliefs…

One of my favorite teachers on this subject would have to be Abraham and Esther Hicks. If you’ve never heard of them, I’d advise you to get started here. 

I’ve been a student of theirs for nearly 5 years now, and I must say that their teachings are life changing. One of the points that their teachings consistently drive home is this:

A belief is only a thought you keep thinking until you believe it’s true…

The biggest problem with this is that most people focus on the problem more than they do the solution. To add to this principle on beliefs, whatever you focus on most in life, will grow, and you will start to see more and more evidence of it all around you.

Imagine that… It’s no coincidence that the person who chooses to focus on love, prosperity, and abundance are those who get to experience those things in their daily lives.

On the contrary, those who dwell in negativity, hopelessness, and lack (or a ‘not enough’ mentality) are those who live the misery of it all. Here’s why, according to Abraham:

The realization that something is not as you want it to be is an important first step, but once you have identified that, the faster you are able to turn your attention in the direction of a solution, the better, because a continuing exploration of the problem will prevent you from finding the solution. The problem is a different vibrational frequency than the solution—and all thoughts (or vibrations) are affected by (or managed by) the Law of Attraction.
Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction — 3/31/09

So how do we ensure that we are evolving in a way that will bring us closer to a more unified, healthy, and loving world?

Well, when we become aware of our own thoughts, we have to be honest about what comes up. If you find that your thinking is predominantly everything that you don’t wish to experience, then you must be willing to shift beyond those beliefs because they contribute to the whole.

With the surge of technology and platforms like YouTube, we are quickly becoming the spiritually awakened generation who understands the fundamentals of change better than any generation that ever lived.

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It is up to each of us to keep ourselves educated on the principles and ideas that will move humanity forward. More importantly, we must be the demonstration of what we learn, because faith without action is useless.

When we are willing to change ourselves (individually) for the better, we help change our world collectively.

I’ll leave you with this brief lesson by Abraham of how we can take charge of our own beliefs (video below).

Watch and comment, I want to know what you think.

Love,

Brittnay

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3 Beautiful Super Soul Lessons with Michael Bernard Beckwith (Full Edpisode)

This past weekend I was struck in awe of the beautiful lessons shared on Super Soul Sunday with Michael Bernard Beckwith and momma O.

In case you’re wondering why he looks so familiar, you may recognize him as one of the captivating speakers on The Secret documentary. He’s also written several books and has a mega trans-denominational church with more than 9,000 members in Southern California. Yes, he’s “that” guy! And I get why seeing as though I must have watched this episode at least 6 times, and I’m certain to watch it several more times.

There are just so many nuggets of goodness that I couldn’t absorb them all at once. But here are a few standout takeaways that I’m sure you could appreciate as well:

 

1. Always stop to think about the lessons of the moment… How can I grow through and from this circumstance?

 

Whatever the circumstance, it’s there to teach you something. It’s there to make you more of something. Stop and ask yourself, “If I had to live the rest of my days going through this, what qualities would I need in order to have peace?”

This one question may bring up words like strength, love, or patience… whatever the answers, at that very moment, wherever you are, start practicing those things. Start being patient, start showing your strength, start loving more. And the more you do these things, over time you will have developed a new and improved version of yourself. And more than likely, your circumstances will have changed for the better.

For me, the qualities would be patience, perseverance, discipline, and trust. What qualities would have to emerge for you? Leave your answers in the comment section below.

 

2. You can only have what you are willing to become vibrationally. You have to radiate the feelings of it.

 


No need for more words on this topic of attraction … He pretty much summed it all up. #LawOfAttraction

3. When you are feeling stuck, be willing to open up to a power greater than you and ask for help.


As I said before, POWERFUL lesson after lesson! I had to share it here with you all in case you missed it.

I tried embedding the full episode into this post below, but in case it doesn’t work out, you can watch it by clicking here.

http://www.oprah.com/video_embed.html?article_id=65505

Please comment your thoughts and reactions below. I’d love to get your feedback!

Love,

@BCSTARKS