Its been a while since I’ve blogged… at least the way that I was used to blogging when I started this thing. The truth is, life got in the way. A lot of new things have happened since I last poured my guts out on BCSTARKS, and with lots of experiences come lots of lessons. And my readers know how passionate I am about learning from life’s lessons and sharing them.
I won’t go into detail about everything, because that’s never why I share things here. But I will share with you how I’ve felt as of late, and what I’ve learned from my emotional bouts.
Fear… But I’ve learned to do things anyway just to get past it. Although I find myself afraid at times, I’m more fearful of not taking chances with my hopes and dreams than I am of actually facing my fears.
I’ve felt disappointment. But the lesson here is that one should never expect others to fit the mold of what one wants them to be. People are who they are, and have every right to evolve at their own pace… No one else is responsible for one’s personal happiness, nor should one give others the power to determine one’s happiness. If disappointment creeps up on you, say this affirmation: ” I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I lovingly set you free.” Forgiveness is always key to having a more peaceful life experience.
Anger and Frustration… are recipes for disaster. These two emotions get you nowhere, FAST! Or more like trouble that you never intended to be in. My lesson with these two have been to acknowledge when something doesn’t sit well with me. Sometimes my best approach has been to do this in writing. I find that when I write things out first I am able to release some of the initial shock and first impressions on paper. And once I’m past those things, I am then able to better address whatever the situation is, minus the negative emotion. No sense in making a bad situation worse.
I’ve got love. When I surround myself with those who love me unconditionally, and I love myself the same and more, everything else seems a lot less significant. I’ve come to find that being surrounded by love can get one through the toughest situations. Material things, relationships, and circumstances may come and go, but genuine love endures all… It heals all too! Especially when it’s from yourself, to yourself.
Happiness. Its something that I feel often… Especially when I blog. I’ve learned to stick with the things that make me happy as often as possible. Yes, even the little things like watching The Lion King with my 5-year-old nephew. It’s a collection of doing the little things as often as possible that equal the sum of a happy life. For me, happiness is a collection of experiencing more good moments than bad. It is possible for all, but experienced mainly by those who make a conscious decision to be happy in spite of the unpleasant temporary moments.
Peace is what I feel nowadays. I’ve learned to find peace in the midst of chaos. I do this most quickly when I make time to quiet my mind from all the negative thoughts that stir up negative emotions. I tell myself a different story through affirmations and meditation. I give myself time to find relief, which calms me and allows me to reach a state of peace regardless of what’s going on around me. I haven’t quite mastered this yet, but I sure am getting better at it.
Emotions are a major part of the human experience, but it’s how you express them that determines what your life becomes.
Overall, my life is on the UP and UP. I have so much to be thankful for. And it only gets better. And I wish you the same.